Ben (Benjamin)

My wife finds that annoying.

She's coming to me with a problem, not always with the intention that I solve it, but just to complain.

to let off steam, to feel better.

And sometimes I will become overly critical about what she did that put her in that position and try and give too many solutions to a problem that she didn't want.

And she will tell me, you're doing it again.

And then I'll make a mental note of that.

I'm like, oh, I'm sorry.

I know what I'm doing.

I know that.

And at one point in our relationship, I would have thought that my intentions were so pure and

that I would have gotten frustrated with that feedback from her.

I'm just trying to help, right?

But no, it's selfish that I'm trying to help because that's not what she wants.

She came to me wanting to vent.

And just because I feel like I can solve a problem in my way doesn't mean that that's right for what she came to me for.

So I think it's like, I'm not talking about macro problems.

I'm talking about just like on a day to day noticing, okay, this thing bothers your wife.

Like whether it's restless leg or like the tiniest things in life that somehow set us each, like we each have things that set each other off.

And I think it's just trying to fix those little outskirt problems that

Not the big one.