Ben Hart

And I think that if you communicate some of that a little more thoroughly and have some expectations so he understands where you're coming from, and if he doesn't want to, then cool, he doesn't want to. But marriage, I think, is a little bit more longer. But even just the first level of commitment.

If a guy doesn't know if he wants to commit to you after three months, I mean, that's kind of a problem, especially in your 30s.

If a guy doesn't know if he wants to commit to you after three months, I mean, that's kind of a problem, especially in your 30s.

If a guy doesn't know if he wants to commit to you after three months, I mean, that's kind of a problem, especially in your 30s.

I think the one I just kind of mentioned seems to work very well with people because it's letting them know that you don't want to last in a situationship because you're looking for other things in your life. But if that's what he's looking for, no problem. That's like a soft line that you're trying to draw because you should have some boundary here.

I think the one I just kind of mentioned seems to work very well with people because it's letting them know that you don't want to last in a situationship because you're looking for other things in your life. But if that's what he's looking for, no problem. That's like a soft line that you're trying to draw because you should have some boundary here.

I think the one I just kind of mentioned seems to work very well with people because it's letting them know that you don't want to last in a situationship because you're looking for other things in your life. But if that's what he's looking for, no problem. That's like a soft line that you're trying to draw because you should have some boundary here.

Like you don't want to continue in these long situationships and then waste. All of a sudden you get in one, two, three situationships and all of a sudden you got like three or four years out of a prime moment for you. I don't think that's fair enough, right? And I think that you need to communicate it in a way that's understanding.

Like you don't want to continue in these long situationships and then waste. All of a sudden you get in one, two, three situationships and all of a sudden you got like three or four years out of a prime moment for you. I don't think that's fair enough, right? And I think that you need to communicate it in a way that's understanding.

Like you don't want to continue in these long situationships and then waste. All of a sudden you get in one, two, three situationships and all of a sudden you got like three or four years out of a prime moment for you. I don't think that's fair enough, right? And I think that you need to communicate it in a way that's understanding.

And after you've vetted a little bit, a lot of women that I speak to are trying to figure out commitment a little too soon. Like a couple of weeks in, they're like, well, I don't know. You think he's going to come in? I'm like, well, you're still vetting him. You're still going to get to know him. And that's why I kind of give the framework of like the two and a half, three month mark. Because...

And after you've vetted a little bit, a lot of women that I speak to are trying to figure out commitment a little too soon. Like a couple of weeks in, they're like, well, I don't know. You think he's going to come in? I'm like, well, you're still vetting him. You're still going to get to know him. And that's why I kind of give the framework of like the two and a half, three month mark. Because...

And after you've vetted a little bit, a lot of women that I speak to are trying to figure out commitment a little too soon. Like a couple of weeks in, they're like, well, I don't know. You think he's going to come in? I'm like, well, you're still vetting him. You're still going to get to know him. And that's why I kind of give the framework of like the two and a half, three month mark. Because...

It's fair enough if you guys have one, maybe two dates a week at that point. That's a good 12, et cetera, dates in there at minimum. And if he doesn't know if he wants to commit to you by then, you kind of have to make a call on that. And you can't just say, he should have done it. Well, he's not in control of your life, and he might see things very differently.

It's fair enough if you guys have one, maybe two dates a week at that point. That's a good 12, et cetera, dates in there at minimum. And if he doesn't know if he wants to commit to you by then, you kind of have to make a call on that. And you can't just say, he should have done it. Well, he's not in control of your life, and he might see things very differently.

It's fair enough if you guys have one, maybe two dates a week at that point. That's a good 12, et cetera, dates in there at minimum. And if he doesn't know if he wants to commit to you by then, you kind of have to make a call on that. And you can't just say, he should have done it. Well, he's not in control of your life, and he might see things very differently.

So you should take control of your life and kind of do something about it. It doesn't have to be a hard line, but it has to be like, hey, if this is not going to continue, I totally get it. That's fair. That's respectable. And he can only say, well, I really respect that, even if he didn't want to.

So you should take control of your life and kind of do something about it. It doesn't have to be a hard line, but it has to be like, hey, if this is not going to continue, I totally get it. That's fair. That's respectable. And he can only say, well, I really respect that, even if he didn't want to.

So you should take control of your life and kind of do something about it. It doesn't have to be a hard line, but it has to be like, hey, if this is not going to continue, I totally get it. That's fair. That's respectable. And he can only say, well, I really respect that, even if he didn't want to.

What do I see? It depends, right? I think this like idea of,