Ben Hart

in dating to your point by the way it's just very fundamental it's not like anything crazy no and i and i love that because it's doable and you can see how you've done it in other aspects of your life so why couldn't you do it in this aspect as well right and i just think a lot of people don't like to think of it that way that's my point it's like it's it's it's supposed to be romantic it's supposed to be gray and mysterious and undefined and beautiful and not so thought through

Oh, a lot longer. And, like, you know, I always talk about, like, there's people who operate like leafs, you know, and I use this term because it's like leafs. Like, whatever way the wind blows, I blow. You know, what are you looking for? Whatever. I don't know. We'll see. And that's okay. If you don't have any wants and desires, nobody's going to pressure you to want that.

Oh, a lot longer. And, like, you know, I always talk about, like, there's people who operate like leafs, you know, and I use this term because it's like leafs. Like, whatever way the wind blows, I blow. You know, what are you looking for? Whatever. I don't know. We'll see. And that's okay. If you don't have any wants and desires, nobody's going to pressure you to want that.

Oh, a lot longer. And, like, you know, I always talk about, like, there's people who operate like leafs, you know, and I use this term because it's like leafs. Like, whatever way the wind blows, I blow. You know, what are you looking for? Whatever. I don't know. We'll see. And that's okay. If you don't have any wants and desires, nobody's going to pressure you to want that.

But, like, just nobody wants to hear it later. That's all. We just don't want to hear... I don't know why it didn't happen, but like, you know what I mean? That's all.

But, like, just nobody wants to hear it later. That's all. We just don't want to hear... I don't know why it didn't happen, but like, you know what I mean? That's all.

But, like, just nobody wants to hear it later. That's all. We just don't want to hear... I don't know why it didn't happen, but like, you know what I mean? That's all.

I would say the one piece of advice, if I have any advice is honestly consume less and have some fun. And I think we've gotten to a consumer culture when it comes to paying advice and getting input from people online and friend groups. And you're, you're overly bombarded.

I would say the one piece of advice, if I have any advice is honestly consume less and have some fun. And I think we've gotten to a consumer culture when it comes to paying advice and getting input from people online and friend groups. And you're, you're overly bombarded.

I would say the one piece of advice, if I have any advice is honestly consume less and have some fun. And I think we've gotten to a consumer culture when it comes to paying advice and getting input from people online and friend groups. And you're, you're overly bombarded.

comes to this aspect of life and it's kind of paralyzing people and it's making people very fearful and scared and you know one woman asked me on a podcast before she said well you know why should women listen to us and i don't think they should matter of fact they'd be better off just not listening to anybody and just going to live their life and having some fun and without over complicating all this because the more you consume all of a sudden everything becomes a problem you're over analyzing everything but i heard online what do you have to say about that i don't have anything to say just go live your life

comes to this aspect of life and it's kind of paralyzing people and it's making people very fearful and scared and you know one woman asked me on a podcast before she said well you know why should women listen to us and i don't think they should matter of fact they'd be better off just not listening to anybody and just going to live their life and having some fun and without over complicating all this because the more you consume all of a sudden everything becomes a problem you're over analyzing everything but i heard online what do you have to say about that i don't have anything to say just go live your life

comes to this aspect of life and it's kind of paralyzing people and it's making people very fearful and scared and you know one woman asked me on a podcast before she said well you know why should women listen to us and i don't think they should matter of fact they'd be better off just not listening to anybody and just going to live their life and having some fun and without over complicating all this because the more you consume all of a sudden everything becomes a problem you're over analyzing everything but i heard online what do you have to say about that i don't have anything to say just go live your life

How about that? Just don't listen to anybody. You'll be so much better off. Like part of my stuff is like, I don't, even when I take my one-on-ones, I don't get you on one time with you. I don't need any more. We don't need to do this every week. If you want to, fantastic. But this is not, this is not what I'm doing here. Reframe it a little bit and then you go live your life.

How about that? Just don't listen to anybody. You'll be so much better off. Like part of my stuff is like, I don't, even when I take my one-on-ones, I don't get you on one time with you. I don't need any more. We don't need to do this every week. If you want to, fantastic. But this is not, this is not what I'm doing here. Reframe it a little bit and then you go live your life.

How about that? Just don't listen to anybody. You'll be so much better off. Like part of my stuff is like, I don't, even when I take my one-on-ones, I don't get you on one time with you. I don't need any more. We don't need to do this every week. If you want to, fantastic. But this is not, this is not what I'm doing here. Reframe it a little bit and then you go live your life.

Don't overcomplicate this.

Don't overcomplicate this.

Don't overcomplicate this.

Yeah, I appreciate that. And thank you for summarizing it up. It actually beautifully said, you can find me at Benny Inc. B-E-N-N-Y-I-N-C on Instagram, on TikTok. And I have a dating with purpose community that anybody can sign up for. It's a subscription, but anybody can sign up for it on my website, bennyhartink.com. And that's it.