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Ben Hart

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612 total appearances

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Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

They used to drop the handkerchief. Like all these things are very real. Would they always work out? No, but that's a part of the interaction between men and women, you know?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

They used to drop the handkerchief. Like all these things are very real. Would they always work out? No, but that's a part of the interaction between men and women, you know?

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Yeah. And I get the fear. Like I taught so many women to say, now women tell me that they don't even look at the guys. They're like, They can look at the guys they're not that interested in, but the guys we're interested in, they just totally avoid eye contact with them. And I said, well, I don't understand.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Yeah. And I get the fear. Like I taught so many women to say, now women tell me that they don't even look at the guys. They're like, They can look at the guys they're not that interested in, but the guys we're interested in, they just totally avoid eye contact with them. And I said, well, I don't understand.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Yeah. And I get the fear. Like I taught so many women to say, now women tell me that they don't even look at the guys. They're like, They can look at the guys they're not that interested in, but the guys we're interested in, they just totally avoid eye contact with them. And I said, well, I don't understand.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Like the waffle brain of mine doesn't really get that, but I get why that maybe makes sense for you. But for any guy, like, I don't understand that at all. It makes no sense. And because of, right. We were talking about before, maybe guys have gotten a little more hesitant to approach girls for a variety of reasons, but you could argue, yes, guys have gotten a little, uh,

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Like the waffle brain of mine doesn't really get that, but I get why that maybe makes sense for you. But for any guy, like, I don't understand that at all. It makes no sense. And because of, right. We were talking about before, maybe guys have gotten a little more hesitant to approach girls for a variety of reasons, but you could argue, yes, guys have gotten a little, uh,

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Like the waffle brain of mine doesn't really get that, but I get why that maybe makes sense for you. But for any guy, like, I don't understand that at all. It makes no sense. And because of, right. We were talking about before, maybe guys have gotten a little more hesitant to approach girls for a variety of reasons, but you could argue, yes, guys have gotten a little, uh,

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

a little more risk adverse in that sense, but also on the flip side of that, and this is not me defending guys because I've met a ton of dweebs and bums and everything else. But on the flip side of that, I have to mention that, you know, when guys are on social, just like a lot of girls are, they see a lot of women, uh,

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

a little more risk adverse in that sense, but also on the flip side of that, and this is not me defending guys because I've met a ton of dweebs and bums and everything else. But on the flip side of that, I have to mention that, you know, when guys are on social, just like a lot of girls are, they see a lot of women, uh,

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

a little more risk adverse in that sense, but also on the flip side of that, and this is not me defending guys because I've met a ton of dweebs and bums and everything else. But on the flip side of that, I have to mention that, you know, when guys are on social, just like a lot of girls are, they see a lot of women, uh,

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

kind of talking shit about a lot of men basically saying like oh they're putting their hinge profiles up to saying this creep was in this gym looking at me and they get this reinforced into their system and they're like i ain't gonna do that fuck that i'm not putting i'm not getting from her to talk so there's there's there's this hesitancy with being a little too much where some girls would be like oh what are you doing that happens even just saying hi that happens

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

kind of talking shit about a lot of men basically saying like oh they're putting their hinge profiles up to saying this creep was in this gym looking at me and they get this reinforced into their system and they're like i ain't gonna do that fuck that i'm not putting i'm not getting from her to talk so there's there's there's this hesitancy with being a little too much where some girls would be like oh what are you doing that happens even just saying hi that happens

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

kind of talking shit about a lot of men basically saying like oh they're putting their hinge profiles up to saying this creep was in this gym looking at me and they get this reinforced into their system and they're like i ain't gonna do that fuck that i'm not putting i'm not getting from her to talk so there's there's there's this hesitancy with being a little too much where some girls would be like oh what are you doing that happens even just saying hi that happens

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Now, again, there's a line to be drawn where guys don't know how to come off and they can do some stupid shit. Of course they can. But there is a hesitancy also because of that moment, too, whereas they're fearful of some girl going on and talking shit about them or her entering the group chat. This guy was a creep. So there's the hesitancy there.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Now, again, there's a line to be drawn where guys don't know how to come off and they can do some stupid shit. Of course they can. But there is a hesitancy also because of that moment, too, whereas they're fearful of some girl going on and talking shit about them or her entering the group chat. This guy was a creep. So there's the hesitancy there.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

Now, again, there's a line to be drawn where guys don't know how to come off and they can do some stupid shit. Of course they can. But there is a hesitancy also because of that moment, too, whereas they're fearful of some girl going on and talking shit about them or her entering the group chat. This guy was a creep. So there's the hesitancy there.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

I think it depends, right? That would really depend on how long we're talking. Like if she's been seeing him for like four months or if she's been seeing him like two weeks.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

I think it depends, right? That would really depend on how long we're talking. Like if she's been seeing him for like four months or if she's been seeing him like two weeks.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#520 What He’s Really Thinking in the First 3 Dates: Flirting, Communication & Navigating the Early Days of Dating with Dating Strategist Ben Hart

I think it depends, right? That would really depend on how long we're talking. Like if she's been seeing him for like four months or if she's been seeing him like two weeks.