Ben Hart

And all of a sudden, a woman who has been out of the dating scene for like 20 years, I've worked with plenty of them, but they've had this moment where it's like, I don't know how to date. It's so new. It's so different.

Just putting yourself in a position where you dress up nice, you go out, you just have an hour to yourself out and you get one look from a guy and all of a sudden you're like, wow, you know, he didn't do anything, but I kind of like the look. And then you go back next time and the guy smiled at me and he was talking to me, but he didn't ask my number, but I liked it. It was really good.

Just putting yourself in a position where you dress up nice, you go out, you just have an hour to yourself out and you get one look from a guy and all of a sudden you're like, wow, you know, he didn't do anything, but I kind of like the look. And then you go back next time and the guy smiled at me and he was talking to me, but he didn't ask my number, but I liked it. It was really good.

Just putting yourself in a position where you dress up nice, you go out, you just have an hour to yourself out and you get one look from a guy and all of a sudden you're like, wow, you know, he didn't do anything, but I kind of like the look. And then you go back next time and the guy smiled at me and he was talking to me, but he didn't ask my number, but I liked it. It was really good.

Those are the momentum pieces. And I just find that when you overwhelm the story with all the expectations you have, you tend to fall short of all of them. And it's really important to detach from an outcome, but just start getting engulfed in embracing the process of putting yourself in position.

Those are the momentum pieces. And I just find that when you overwhelm the story with all the expectations you have, you tend to fall short of all of them. And it's really important to detach from an outcome, but just start getting engulfed in embracing the process of putting yourself in position.

Those are the momentum pieces. And I just find that when you overwhelm the story with all the expectations you have, you tend to fall short of all of them. And it's really important to detach from an outcome, but just start getting engulfed in embracing the process of putting yourself in position.

Totally. And that's where I stem from. Like when I wrote the book, I've been in like the startup business world a little bit, but like, that's kind of where this came from. It was more like, honestly, like I'm not, I don't say anything innovator. Like it's really sometimes like my delivery is a little bit different, but like, it's nothing innovative. It's very, very like fundamental.

Totally. And that's where I stem from. Like when I wrote the book, I've been in like the startup business world a little bit, but like, that's kind of where this came from. It was more like, honestly, like I'm not, I don't say anything innovator. Like it's really sometimes like my delivery is a little bit different, but like, it's nothing innovative. It's very, very like fundamental.

Totally. And that's where I stem from. Like when I wrote the book, I've been in like the startup business world a little bit, but like, that's kind of where this came from. It was more like, honestly, like I'm not, I don't say anything innovator. Like it's really sometimes like my delivery is a little bit different, but like, it's nothing innovative. It's very, very like fundamental.

It's like very fundamentally basic. I'm like getting specific outcomes and kind of getting engulfed in the process and enjoying the moment and having fun and doing those things. And then I think that dating specifically for a lot of people is, is difficult because they've developed a structure around a lot of other aspects of their life, like their work and their school and

It's like very fundamentally basic. I'm like getting specific outcomes and kind of getting engulfed in the process and enjoying the moment and having fun and doing those things. And then I think that dating specifically for a lot of people is, is difficult because they've developed a structure around a lot of other aspects of their life, like their work and their school and

It's like very fundamentally basic. I'm like getting specific outcomes and kind of getting engulfed in the process and enjoying the moment and having fun and doing those things. And then I think that dating specifically for a lot of people is, is difficult because they've developed a structure around a lot of other aspects of their life, like their work and their school and

and their gym routines. Like there's a lot of structure associated with like, you do X, you get Y. And I think that with dating, there's not a lot of structure. A lot of people have this really unique Disney story fairy tale attached to how it should happen. And not a lot of people actually like to think about dating strategically.

and their gym routines. Like there's a lot of structure associated with like, you do X, you get Y. And I think that with dating, there's not a lot of structure. A lot of people have this really unique Disney story fairy tale attached to how it should happen. And not a lot of people actually like to think about dating strategically.

and their gym routines. Like there's a lot of structure associated with like, you do X, you get Y. And I think that with dating, there's not a lot of structure. A lot of people have this really unique Disney story fairy tale attached to how it should happen. And not a lot of people actually like to think about dating strategically.

And I get, I get why it's not an attractive thing to be like, Oh, what do you mean? I got to do this, this, and this. I'm like, well, you don't have, no, you don't have to do anything. But if you think about it a little bit more,

And I get, I get why it's not an attractive thing to be like, Oh, what do you mean? I got to do this, this, and this. I'm like, well, you don't have, no, you don't have to do anything. But if you think about it a little bit more,

And I get, I get why it's not an attractive thing to be like, Oh, what do you mean? I got to do this, this, and this. I'm like, well, you don't have, no, you don't have to do anything. But if you think about it a little bit more,

strategically without focusing on the hard truths of the details just strategically framework and then like think about how to progress that aspect your life like you know if you don't think about