Ben Hart

An example of like what I hear?

Well, I was seeing this guy for, you know, this guy is nine years older than me. I was seeing this guy for six and a half months. And now he's telling me that he doesn't know if he wants to commit. He's still feeling things out. And I don't know what to do here at this point. How do I get him to commit? I said, well, you can't get him to commit, number one.

Well, I was seeing this guy for, you know, this guy is nine years older than me. I was seeing this guy for six and a half months. And now he's telling me that he doesn't know if he wants to commit. He's still feeling things out. And I don't know what to do here at this point. How do I get him to commit? I said, well, you can't get him to commit, number one.

Well, I was seeing this guy for, you know, this guy is nine years older than me. I was seeing this guy for six and a half months. And now he's telling me that he doesn't know if he wants to commit. He's still feeling things out. And I don't know what to do here at this point. How do I get him to commit? I said, well, you can't get him to commit, number one.

But number two, you stayed in a situationship way too long. You shouldn't have been in situationship. You should have required commitment in order to continue this thing at month two and a half, max three. if that's what you wanted. And especially, you know, it might be a little bit different, right?

But number two, you stayed in a situationship way too long. You shouldn't have been in situationship. You should have required commitment in order to continue this thing at month two and a half, max three. if that's what you wanted. And especially, you know, it might be a little bit different, right?

But number two, you stayed in a situationship way too long. You shouldn't have been in situationship. You should have required commitment in order to continue this thing at month two and a half, max three. if that's what you wanted. And especially, you know, it might be a little bit different, right?

And I say that, I'm giving a specific example right now, but if somebody, if a young girl says, hey, you know, I would like to have a family and I'd like to get married, then that is pretty much a line you should start to draw.

And I say that, I'm giving a specific example right now, but if somebody, if a young girl says, hey, you know, I would like to have a family and I'd like to get married, then that is pretty much a line you should start to draw.

And I say that, I'm giving a specific example right now, but if somebody, if a young girl says, hey, you know, I would like to have a family and I'd like to get married, then that is pretty much a line you should start to draw.

Now, if it's not that big of a deal, if you already have kids and he already has kids and you guys just want to find somebody to share your life with, the rules can kind of bend and twist a little bit. But at the same time, you should still be transparent and communicative about those things that are important to you. So that's kind of one situation I can kind of outline.

Now, if it's not that big of a deal, if you already have kids and he already has kids and you guys just want to find somebody to share your life with, the rules can kind of bend and twist a little bit. But at the same time, you should still be transparent and communicative about those things that are important to you. So that's kind of one situation I can kind of outline.

Now, if it's not that big of a deal, if you already have kids and he already has kids and you guys just want to find somebody to share your life with, the rules can kind of bend and twist a little bit. But at the same time, you should still be transparent and communicative about those things that are important to you. So that's kind of one situation I can kind of outline.

I completely agree, by the way. As far as the marriage thing goes, that's like a different category. I think you got to get to know people a little bit. And, you know, I personally, especially for somebody in their 30s, I give it around like a year before he figures out if he wants to marry her or vice versa. But at the same time, right, on the flip side of it is like,

I completely agree, by the way. As far as the marriage thing goes, that's like a different category. I think you got to get to know people a little bit. And, you know, I personally, especially for somebody in their 30s, I give it around like a year before he figures out if he wants to marry her or vice versa. But at the same time, right, on the flip side of it is like,

I completely agree, by the way. As far as the marriage thing goes, that's like a different category. I think you got to get to know people a little bit. And, you know, I personally, especially for somebody in their 30s, I give it around like a year before he figures out if he wants to marry her or vice versa. But at the same time, right, on the flip side of it is like,

When I say hard line in the sand, I mean, a hard line is kind of the way you communicate that hard line. Some people are like, oh, I don't do this past that. And that's probably not going to make somebody very interested to keep continuing with you anyway. But if you voice...

When I say hard line in the sand, I mean, a hard line is kind of the way you communicate that hard line. Some people are like, oh, I don't do this past that. And that's probably not going to make somebody very interested to keep continuing with you anyway. But if you voice...

When I say hard line in the sand, I mean, a hard line is kind of the way you communicate that hard line. Some people are like, oh, I don't do this past that. And that's probably not going to make somebody very interested to keep continuing with you anyway. But if you voice...

And if you communicate thoroughly about what it is you're looking for, like, hey, I've been having a really good time with you. I really enjoy this. But at this moment, I am looking for commitment to go things forward. That's really important to me. If that's not where you're at, I totally get that. But that's just kind of what I'm going to need to move forward. If that's not it, I totally get it.