Ben Hart

And that's what most people would call it's a situationship, kind of.

And that's what most people would call it's a situationship, kind of.

And that's what most people would call it's a situationship, kind of.

Correct. Not having that conversation. See, like if you're somebody that cares about it, right? Like if you're somebody who says, yeah, you know, for example, let's say most women that call in, yes, I am looking for, you know, I would like a commitment that leads to marriage one day and I would like to have a family. Let's just give a classic example.

Correct. Not having that conversation. See, like if you're somebody that cares about it, right? Like if you're somebody who says, yeah, you know, for example, let's say most women that call in, yes, I am looking for, you know, I would like a commitment that leads to marriage one day and I would like to have a family. Let's just give a classic example.

Correct. Not having that conversation. See, like if you're somebody that cares about it, right? Like if you're somebody who says, yeah, you know, for example, let's say most women that call in, yes, I am looking for, you know, I would like a commitment that leads to marriage one day and I would like to have a family. Let's just give a classic example.

Okay, there's an identity that happens, right? You have, this is the way I like to think about it, the way I always talk about it and teach it is there's outcome. And then there's, who do I need to become to get outcome? And just like anything else, right? Like if you want to get into Harvard, you got to become Harvard student first before you get into Harvard.

Okay, there's an identity that happens, right? You have, this is the way I like to think about it, the way I always talk about it and teach it is there's outcome. And then there's, who do I need to become to get outcome? And just like anything else, right? Like if you want to get into Harvard, you got to become Harvard student first before you get into Harvard.

Okay, there's an identity that happens, right? You have, this is the way I like to think about it, the way I always talk about it and teach it is there's outcome. And then there's, who do I need to become to get outcome? And just like anything else, right? Like if you want to get into Harvard, you got to become Harvard student first before you get into Harvard.

You can't say, once I get into Harvard, then I'll change. No, it's you have to say, okay, if I want to be that, how would somebody like that carry herself? How would she make decisions? What would she put up with? What would she not put up with?

You can't say, once I get into Harvard, then I'll change. No, it's you have to say, okay, if I want to be that, how would somebody like that carry herself? How would she make decisions? What would she put up with? What would she not put up with?

You can't say, once I get into Harvard, then I'll change. No, it's you have to say, okay, if I want to be that, how would somebody like that carry herself? How would she make decisions? What would she put up with? What would she not put up with?

And I'm going to tell you, a lot of people that are in that framework of commitment or one would call maybe wife or a husband wouldn't put up with certain behaviors that are not conducive for long-term success inside a relationship. And that means no long-term situationships. You don't need to do all this stuff. And they would communicate thoroughly.

And I'm going to tell you, a lot of people that are in that framework of commitment or one would call maybe wife or a husband wouldn't put up with certain behaviors that are not conducive for long-term success inside a relationship. And that means no long-term situationships. You don't need to do all this stuff. And they would communicate thoroughly.

And I'm going to tell you, a lot of people that are in that framework of commitment or one would call maybe wife or a husband wouldn't put up with certain behaviors that are not conducive for long-term success inside a relationship. And that means no long-term situationships. You don't need to do all this stuff. And they would communicate thoroughly.

They wouldn't be doing all this fuckery shit that I – excuse my language, that I always see happen. And then blame the guy because he was a narcissistic, manipulative dude.

They wouldn't be doing all this fuckery shit that I – excuse my language, that I always see happen. And then blame the guy because he was a narcissistic, manipulative dude.

They wouldn't be doing all this fuckery shit that I – excuse my language, that I always see happen. And then blame the guy because he was a narcissistic, manipulative dude.

An example of like what I hear?

An example of like what I hear?