Benjamin Hardy

The second one is literally turning everything that happens to you into something that happens for you.

So anything, no matter what it was, you can actually gain and grow from it.

And if you do, then you're always getting better.

You're always learning from every experience.

Whereas if you're in the gap,

then your past becomes a problem.

Like that's from like a psychology standpoint, what you need to be happy in the present is you need a happy past and an exciting future.

And the past is literally a meaning.

And so the gain is just a lens of using your, or of transforming your past into more gains, more learning.

Even from your most extreme traumas, you can learn to turn those into gains so that you're constantly better and even grateful for them, which is what psychologists would call post-traumatic growth.

So it's really just those two things.

I'm only measuring myself against myself backward, and I'm literally turning every experience into my gain.

This is a really interesting concept in psychology.

Typically, the way we look at time is we look at it as past, present, and future, and we kind of look at it sequentially.

And we also look at it chronologically, like my past is behind me.

There's no way I can get back there.

My present is now, and the future's up ahead of me.

I'll never actually be able to go into the future.

All there is is really now.

From a psychology standpoint, that's not how psychologists view time.