Benjamin Hardy

Psychologists don't view time sequentially.

We actually view it holistically.

So what I mean by that is, is that the past is currently existing in my life.

Like who I'm being right now is a complete amalgamation of my views of my past, my experiences of my past.

We even today, we're talking about us having a conversation four years ago.

Right.

And so like,

My past is, of course, influencing me right now.

And my narration of the past, my story of the past, the feelings I have toward my past, the anchors I may have in my past that are unresolved, call it trauma or whatever.

But also my goals are heavily influencing me.

I mean, anyone who's listening to this is listening to it for a reason.

They're listening to it because they feel like this is going to help them contribute to their goals or help them move forward in their lives.

And so

Everything about my life right now is a combination of my feelings and my perspectives of my past and also my excitements or my feelings towards the future.

They're certainly not mutually exclusive in terms of being in the gain, but also having a future-oriented mindset.

Most people who read The Gap and The Gain are very future-oriented people.

The gain doesn't stop you, I guess, from having a future.

Actually, in my perspective, whenever I'm living in the gain, it actually helps me to be more...

It helps me to have a future that's more genuinely coming from my own self rather than something that's coming from the outside.

Usually people's goals and they're called their standards or their ideals actually were fed to them by culture, by society.