Beth (Caller)

But I did start sleeping in our playroom on the futon, and we started marriage counseling.

The counselor did advise him we needed to talk to the kids and let them know why there was kind of a change going on.

And so he took it on himself in just a nonchalant conversation with three of our kids and told them that he broke mommy's trust.

And that we're working through things.

But then I kind of was waking up to like the kids' behavior was really getting affected.

I think it was always being affected by the way he was kind of treating me and what he was doing, his instability.

I just, I was starting to wake up to that.

And then he started going back on the work that he said he was going to do.

He was not doing it.

And so it was just like that.

So then that caused me to go to my husband and say, like, I'm done with this.

You're not respecting what I need.

You're not keeping us safe.

And the kids and I are going to be moving out for two months and I'm separating from you.

And so...

he really flipped out and he actually said, Oh, if you're doing this to me, we need to tell, I'm telling the girls, I'm telling the girls, which is my, at the time, um, eight and seven year old.

And so they're already in bed and he goes into their room and says, mommy has something to tell you.

And so I'm like put on the spot.

I wasn't prepared to talk to them in that setting.

And I just said, well, remember how daddy told you he broke mommy's trust and