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Bill Eddy

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Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

It's not a good sign. But they're so emotional. You say, my goodness, this person's been through so much. Now I have the emotions. And what I teach in my seminars is I understand it has a lot to do with the amygdala. that the amygdala catches the intense fear or intense anger, that those are heightened. And so now mine's going, oh, Billy, you've got to do something.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

I'm like, my body wants me to take action. And I want to save this person from their evil co-parent, for example. And so what we see with negative advocates is they're emotionally hooked to but uninformed. They don't really know what's going on. And I'll give you an example. A court case with a high conflict person brought their whole family.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

I'm like, my body wants me to take action. And I want to save this person from their evil co-parent, for example. And so what we see with negative advocates is they're emotionally hooked to but uninformed. They don't really know what's going on. And I'll give you an example. A court case with a high conflict person brought their whole family.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

I'm like, my body wants me to take action. And I want to save this person from their evil co-parent, for example. And so what we see with negative advocates is they're emotionally hooked to but uninformed. They don't really know what's going on. And I'll give you an example. A court case with a high conflict person brought their whole family.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

And I had a case with false allegations, terrible allegations. My client happened to be the father. The mother was making false allegations of child sexual abuse. And I've had all types of true cases, false cases. So this is a real problem a real issue, but there also were false allegations. In this case, that's what was happening.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

And I had a case with false allegations, terrible allegations. My client happened to be the father. The mother was making false allegations of child sexual abuse. And I've had all types of true cases, false cases. So this is a real problem a real issue, but there also were false allegations. In this case, that's what was happening.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

And I had a case with false allegations, terrible allegations. My client happened to be the father. The mother was making false allegations of child sexual abuse. And I've had all types of true cases, false cases. So this is a real problem a real issue, but there also were false allegations. In this case, that's what was happening.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

So the mother brings her whole family and the judge realizes what's going on in the case because of the evidence presented and sanctions the mother for knowingly false allegations. What does that equate to in the legal system? So my client, the father, spent about $40,000 getting a psychological evaluation, having a trial, doing all of this attorney's fees.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

So the mother brings her whole family and the judge realizes what's going on in the case because of the evidence presented and sanctions the mother for knowingly false allegations. What does that equate to in the legal system? So my client, the father, spent about $40,000 getting a psychological evaluation, having a trial, doing all of this attorney's fees.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

So the mother brings her whole family and the judge realizes what's going on in the case because of the evidence presented and sanctions the mother for knowingly false allegations. What does that equate to in the legal system? So my client, the father, spent about $40,000 getting a psychological evaluation, having a trial, doing all of this attorney's fees.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

And so the court made her pay $10,000 of his attorney's fees and costs. So that's what the sanction is. And there's a code section that says knowingly false allegations of child abuse are a basis to make one party pay the other party's fees. So she never paid it, by the way. And she owned no property. We weren't able to get it because she had property in other people's names.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

And so the court made her pay $10,000 of his attorney's fees and costs. So that's what the sanction is. And there's a code section that says knowingly false allegations of child abuse are a basis to make one party pay the other party's fees. So she never paid it, by the way. And she owned no property. We weren't able to get it because she had property in other people's names.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

And so the court made her pay $10,000 of his attorney's fees and costs. So that's what the sanction is. And there's a code section that says knowingly false allegations of child abuse are a basis to make one party pay the other party's fees. So she never paid it, by the way. And she owned no property. We weren't able to get it because she had property in other people's names.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

But the idea was that she brought her whole family there. She brought her mother, mother's boyfriend. She brought her roommate, who was a psychology grad student. who was like encouraging her, oh, your daughter's being abused. You've got to do something. These were all negative advocates. And when the judge made her ruling and spelled out the information, that was very clear.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

But the idea was that she brought her whole family there. She brought her mother, mother's boyfriend. She brought her roommate, who was a psychology grad student. who was like encouraging her, oh, your daughter's being abused. You've got to do something. These were all negative advocates. And when the judge made her ruling and spelled out the information, that was very clear.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

But the idea was that she brought her whole family there. She brought her mother, mother's boyfriend. She brought her roommate, who was a psychology grad student. who was like encouraging her, oh, your daughter's being abused. You've got to do something. These were all negative advocates. And when the judge made her ruling and spelled out the information, that was very clear.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

I mean, we caught the mother lying. She persuaded other people to lie for her. We caught them in lie. So it was a really surprisingly open case. And the family started yelling at the judge. They said, this is a crime and this is a shame and blah, blah, blah. The judge said, you take yourselves out of here immediately or I will have the bailiffs take you out.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

I mean, we caught the mother lying. She persuaded other people to lie for her. We caught them in lie. So it was a really surprisingly open case. And the family started yelling at the judge. They said, this is a crime and this is a shame and blah, blah, blah. The judge said, you take yourselves out of here immediately or I will have the bailiffs take you out.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

I mean, we caught the mother lying. She persuaded other people to lie for her. We caught them in lie. So it was a really surprisingly open case. And the family started yelling at the judge. They said, this is a crime and this is a shame and blah, blah, blah. The judge said, you take yourselves out of here immediately or I will have the bailiffs take you out.

Huberman Lab
How to Deal With High Conflict People | Bill Eddy

And they stood up and laughed and shouted, this is an abomination or something like that. These were the negative advocates. They didn't know what the full picture was. They believed their family member who was a skilled liar, I believe, and this is very interesting, I got to talk to her therapist, a therapist she had. I was released to talk to her.