Bill Eddy

I think the body is like a first responder and that we should pay attention to that. And especially with high conflict personalities, especially... The con artists, which is part of antisocial personality, and the ones I've dealt with are very good at this, is their words are just right. And your brain is like soothed by them.

I think the body is like a first responder and that we should pay attention to that. And especially with high conflict personalities, especially... The con artists, which is part of antisocial personality, and the ones I've dealt with are very good at this, is their words are just right. And your brain is like soothed by them.

I think the body is like a first responder and that we should pay attention to that. And especially with high conflict personalities, especially... The con artists, which is part of antisocial personality, and the ones I've dealt with are very good at this, is their words are just right. And your brain is like soothed by them.

You go, this person gets it, and I'm totally comfortable, they're charming, all of that. And your gut goes, wait, they're out of sync. I have this cold feeling. Why do I have this cold feeling? And I think that they're aimed at your cerebral thinking and that your guts kind of... gets it because they're in a way predatory, like antisocial tend to be predatory.

You go, this person gets it, and I'm totally comfortable, they're charming, all of that. And your gut goes, wait, they're out of sync. I have this cold feeling. Why do I have this cold feeling? And I think that they're aimed at your cerebral thinking and that your guts kind of... gets it because they're in a way predatory, like antisocial tend to be predatory.

You go, this person gets it, and I'm totally comfortable, they're charming, all of that. And your gut goes, wait, they're out of sync. I have this cold feeling. Why do I have this cold feeling? And I think that they're aimed at your cerebral thinking and that your guts kind of... gets it because they're in a way predatory, like antisocial tend to be predatory.

Well... For me, of course, dealing like with court especially, there's a lot of stuff in writing. And so being able to look at what's written and a lot of blame words, the all or nothing words, she did this and she did that and disparaging words, she's stupid or whatever.

Well... For me, of course, dealing like with court especially, there's a lot of stuff in writing. And so being able to look at what's written and a lot of blame words, the all or nothing words, she did this and she did that and disparaging words, she's stupid or whatever.

Well... For me, of course, dealing like with court especially, there's a lot of stuff in writing. And so being able to look at what's written and a lot of blame words, the all or nothing words, she did this and she did that and disparaging words, she's stupid or whatever.

or he's a bully, he's this and that, which triggers for me, maybe he is, or maybe the person saying it is, but it heightens my attention.

or he's a bully, he's this and that, which triggers for me, maybe he is, or maybe the person saying it is, but it heightens my attention.

or he's a bully, he's this and that, which triggers for me, maybe he is, or maybe the person saying it is, but it heightens my attention.

First of all, I want to make sure that I get this point across, and that is there's a lot of temptation to label people with the mental disorders, the personality disorders. And it's absolutely essential that people don't do that.

First of all, I want to make sure that I get this point across, and that is there's a lot of temptation to label people with the mental disorders, the personality disorders. And it's absolutely essential that people don't do that.

First of all, I want to make sure that I get this point across, and that is there's a lot of temptation to label people with the mental disorders, the personality disorders. And it's absolutely essential that people don't do that.

If you think somebody might be a narcissist or might have borderline personality or be antisocial, keep that to yourself and adapt how you work with them to be more effective or be more cautious, whatever. But the worst thing, I think, is people say, oh, and everyone agrees that person's a narcissist, so we kind of gang up on that person. That's not helpful. The goal is not rejecting people.

If you think somebody might be a narcissist or might have borderline personality or be antisocial, keep that to yourself and adapt how you work with them to be more effective or be more cautious, whatever. But the worst thing, I think, is people say, oh, and everyone agrees that person's a narcissist, so we kind of gang up on that person. That's not helpful. The goal is not rejecting people.

If you think somebody might be a narcissist or might have borderline personality or be antisocial, keep that to yourself and adapt how you work with them to be more effective or be more cautious, whatever. But the worst thing, I think, is people say, oh, and everyone agrees that person's a narcissist, so we kind of gang up on that person. That's not helpful. The goal is not rejecting people.

The goal is adapting what you do to either manage the relationship, decide, okay, that's not someone I'm gonna get close to, but I can still work with them or have them as neighbors or whatever. So I wanna emphasize that, because I think you're right. There's a lot of that today. And people come to me with that concern and say, Bill, you teach about personality disorders.

The goal is adapting what you do to either manage the relationship, decide, okay, that's not someone I'm gonna get close to, but I can still work with them or have them as neighbors or whatever. So I wanna emphasize that, because I think you're right. There's a lot of that today. And people come to me with that concern and say, Bill, you teach about personality disorders.