Bill Eddy

So it's okay to say, you know, we seem to be going in different directions or I have different plans I've realized I want to change. So those are basic principles. The worst thing in ending a relationship or reducing contact is to go back and forth. The worst thing is to pour out your feelings to the person.

I had this people getting divorced and they tell them, I'm so sorry and I love you so much. Pouring out your feelings to someone brings them closer to you. So you want to start holding back some and the other person say, well, let's work. Let's go to counseling. Let's do this. And if you're not sure, go to counseling. I recommend that.

I had this people getting divorced and they tell them, I'm so sorry and I love you so much. Pouring out your feelings to someone brings them closer to you. So you want to start holding back some and the other person say, well, let's work. Let's go to counseling. Let's do this. And if you're not sure, go to counseling. I recommend that.

I had this people getting divorced and they tell them, I'm so sorry and I love you so much. Pouring out your feelings to someone brings them closer to you. So you want to start holding back some and the other person say, well, let's work. Let's go to counseling. Let's do this. And if you're not sure, go to counseling. I recommend that.

But if you're sure, just say, you know, I'm kind of not there anymore. I really need to be more on my own. So don't go back and forth because that really makes it raw and sometimes presages violence in divorces. A high conflict person, especially with some of the personality disorder traits, can't handle the opening and closing, opening and closing.

But if you're sure, just say, you know, I'm kind of not there anymore. I really need to be more on my own. So don't go back and forth because that really makes it raw and sometimes presages violence in divorces. A high conflict person, especially with some of the personality disorder traits, can't handle the opening and closing, opening and closing.

But if you're sure, just say, you know, I'm kind of not there anymore. I really need to be more on my own. So don't go back and forth because that really makes it raw and sometimes presages violence in divorces. A high conflict person, especially with some of the personality disorder traits, can't handle the opening and closing, opening and closing.

But the other thing is I say do it in steps so the person can adjust. You might say, you know, I'm thinking about making a career change or I'm thinking that maybe this relationship isn't the right one for me anymore. So the person gets used to the idea this may be coming to an end and then I'd like to move out and have more time alone to think.

But the other thing is I say do it in steps so the person can adjust. You might say, you know, I'm thinking about making a career change or I'm thinking that maybe this relationship isn't the right one for me anymore. So the person gets used to the idea this may be coming to an end and then I'd like to move out and have more time alone to think.

But the other thing is I say do it in steps so the person can adjust. You might say, you know, I'm thinking about making a career change or I'm thinking that maybe this relationship isn't the right one for me anymore. So the person gets used to the idea this may be coming to an end and then I'd like to move out and have more time alone to think.

And then you're at a safe distance and you say, I've thought about it and we really need to get divorced. And let's go to a divorce mediator. I want to be amicable. You know, I don't hate you in many ways. I still love you, but we're just not meant to be a couple anymore. If there's kids involved, then, you know, I really want us to have a supportive relationship for them.

And then you're at a safe distance and you say, I've thought about it and we really need to get divorced. And let's go to a divorce mediator. I want to be amicable. You know, I don't hate you in many ways. I still love you, but we're just not meant to be a couple anymore. If there's kids involved, then, you know, I really want us to have a supportive relationship for them.

And then you're at a safe distance and you say, I've thought about it and we really need to get divorced. And let's go to a divorce mediator. I want to be amicable. You know, I don't hate you in many ways. I still love you, but we're just not meant to be a couple anymore. If there's kids involved, then, you know, I really want us to have a supportive relationship for them.

If there aren't, then maybe this really is the end. But it's step by step so this person can adjust to the fact that you really are leaving, but not too long and not too many steps because then their expectations are raised, oh, maybe you're not really leaving. So these are general principles. Depends a lot on the specifics.

If there aren't, then maybe this really is the end. But it's step by step so this person can adjust to the fact that you really are leaving, but not too long and not too many steps because then their expectations are raised, oh, maybe you're not really leaving. So these are general principles. Depends a lot on the specifics.

If there aren't, then maybe this really is the end. But it's step by step so this person can adjust to the fact that you really are leaving, but not too long and not too many steps because then their expectations are raised, oh, maybe you're not really leaving. So these are general principles. Depends a lot on the specifics.

victim playing person that seems like it's a little trickier let me back up a minute because I want to say there's some times where you just need to get out and do it all at once and don't ease yourself out serious physical or emotional risks so you may need to get away before you hint that I no longer want to be married to you and I've worked with people consulted with them on established you know

victim playing person that seems like it's a little trickier let me back up a minute because I want to say there's some times where you just need to get out and do it all at once and don't ease yourself out serious physical or emotional risks so you may need to get away before you hint that I no longer want to be married to you and I've worked with people consulted with them on established you know

victim playing person that seems like it's a little trickier let me back up a minute because I want to say there's some times where you just need to get out and do it all at once and don't ease yourself out serious physical or emotional risks so you may need to get away before you hint that I no longer want to be married to you and I've worked with people consulted with them on established you know

Moving out when the other person isn't there, they and the kids go to a safe place. They've got their lawyer. And then they tell this person that I'm getting divorced from you. Because people get killed when they separate with certain high conflict domestic violence people.