Bill Eddy

And for the next months or years, they may put you in litigation. They may stalk you, depending on your relationship. They will hate you for that. They'll blame you. They will blame you and that fulfills their picture that it's all your fault. And now, look, you have violated the most basic thing is that you will never blame me. So don't blame them.

And for the next months or years, they may put you in litigation. They may stalk you, depending on your relationship. They will hate you for that. They'll blame you. They will blame you and that fulfills their picture that it's all your fault. And now, look, you have violated the most basic thing is that you will never blame me. So don't blame them.

And for the next months or years, they may put you in litigation. They may stalk you, depending on your relationship. They will hate you for that. They'll blame you. They will blame you and that fulfills their picture that it's all your fault. And now, look, you have violated the most basic thing is that you will never blame me. So don't blame them.

Second thing is don't blame yourself because that reinforces to them. Like if you say, you know, I just can't, you know, I'm a sensitive person and I just can't, you know, keep up with you. I know I'm defective and I know I'm no good at this, this, and this. And so I just have to end this relationship and I promise. so much apologize. It's all my fault. You know, I do everything wrong.

Second thing is don't blame yourself because that reinforces to them. Like if you say, you know, I just can't, you know, I'm a sensitive person and I just can't, you know, keep up with you. I know I'm defective and I know I'm no good at this, this, and this. And so I just have to end this relationship and I promise. so much apologize. It's all my fault. You know, I do everything wrong.

Second thing is don't blame yourself because that reinforces to them. Like if you say, you know, I just can't, you know, I'm a sensitive person and I just can't, you know, keep up with you. I know I'm defective and I know I'm no good at this, this, and this. And so I just have to end this relationship and I promise. so much apologize. It's all my fault. You know, I do everything wrong.

And I'm going to go really look at myself and get some therapy. And I'm so sorry, but I just can't, you know, keep up with you. You're such a really good this, this, and this. And I just can't keep up with that. Well, they're going to blame you for that. And you're, depending on their personality, if they tend to have borderline traits, they're going to feel abandoned by you.

And I'm going to go really look at myself and get some therapy. And I'm so sorry, but I just can't, you know, keep up with you. You're such a really good this, this, and this. And I just can't keep up with that. Well, they're going to blame you for that. And you're, depending on their personality, if they tend to have borderline traits, they're going to feel abandoned by you.

And I'm going to go really look at myself and get some therapy. And I'm so sorry, but I just can't, you know, keep up with you. You're such a really good this, this, and this. And I just can't keep up with that. Well, they're going to blame you for that. And you're, depending on their personality, if they tend to have borderline traits, they're going to feel abandoned by you.

They have narcissistic traits. They're going to feel put down by you. They're going to, because you're supposed to see them as superior. If they have antisocial traits, they're going to feel like, wait a minute, you know, you're supposed to be submissive to me. And yet you're walking away. So you don't want to blame yourself. So you're going to go, well, what's left?

They have narcissistic traits. They're going to feel put down by you. They're going to, because you're supposed to see them as superior. If they have antisocial traits, they're going to feel like, wait a minute, you know, you're supposed to be submissive to me. And yet you're walking away. So you don't want to blame yourself. So you're going to go, well, what's left?

They have narcissistic traits. They're going to feel put down by you. They're going to, because you're supposed to see them as superior. If they have antisocial traits, they're going to feel like, wait a minute, you know, you're supposed to be submissive to me. And yet you're walking away. So you don't want to blame yourself. So you're going to go, well, what's left?

What's left is we aren't a good fit. Our goals have gone in different directions. I'm really ready for a career change. I want to go back to school or, you know, I just realized I'm not ready for a committed relationship anymore. So it's not about you and it's not about them. It's not about blame. You want to try to keep it away from blame.

What's left is we aren't a good fit. Our goals have gone in different directions. I'm really ready for a career change. I want to go back to school or, you know, I just realized I'm not ready for a committed relationship anymore. So it's not about you and it's not about them. It's not about blame. You want to try to keep it away from blame.

What's left is we aren't a good fit. Our goals have gone in different directions. I'm really ready for a career change. I want to go back to school or, you know, I just realized I'm not ready for a committed relationship anymore. So it's not about you and it's not about them. It's not about blame. You want to try to keep it away from blame.

Now some people say it's dishonest to not tell them everything. And let's talk about brutal honesty. High conflict people really love brutal honesty, and they'll tell you, I'm just being honest. You're stupid or a jerk or whatever. That's high conflict people. Reasonable people don't tell everybody every negative thing they think. That's just not healthy for relationships.

Now some people say it's dishonest to not tell them everything. And let's talk about brutal honesty. High conflict people really love brutal honesty, and they'll tell you, I'm just being honest. You're stupid or a jerk or whatever. That's high conflict people. Reasonable people don't tell everybody every negative thing they think. That's just not healthy for relationships.

Now some people say it's dishonest to not tell them everything. And let's talk about brutal honesty. High conflict people really love brutal honesty, and they'll tell you, I'm just being honest. You're stupid or a jerk or whatever. That's high conflict people. Reasonable people don't tell everybody every negative thing they think. That's just not healthy for relationships.

So it's okay to say, you know, we seem to be going in different directions or I have different plans I've realized I want to change. So those are basic principles. The worst thing in ending a relationship or reducing contact is to go back and forth. The worst thing is to pour out your feelings to the person.

So it's okay to say, you know, we seem to be going in different directions or I have different plans I've realized I want to change. So those are basic principles. The worst thing in ending a relationship or reducing contact is to go back and forth. The worst thing is to pour out your feelings to the person.