Bill Eddy

The divorces I do now often have one or two kids. And that's been true in many ways since the 1970s. And a lot of it has to do with birth control. So don't just blame social media, also blame birth control. That when people could decide how large a family they have, they decided to have smaller families.

Birth control pills came out in the 60s and the 70s, suddenly we started noticing people are having two kids. And by the 80s, 90s, 2000s, a lot of people have one kid. My most high conflict divorce cases have one kid. because it's hard to share one kid. It's a little bit easier to share two kids. It's a lot easier to share four kids. It's like, you can have them for the weekend.

Birth control pills came out in the 60s and the 70s, suddenly we started noticing people are having two kids. And by the 80s, 90s, 2000s, a lot of people have one kid. My most high conflict divorce cases have one kid. because it's hard to share one kid. It's a little bit easier to share two kids. It's a lot easier to share four kids. It's like, you can have them for the weekend.

Birth control pills came out in the 60s and the 70s, suddenly we started noticing people are having two kids. And by the 80s, 90s, 2000s, a lot of people have one kid. My most high conflict divorce cases have one kid. because it's hard to share one kid. It's a little bit easier to share two kids. It's a lot easier to share four kids. It's like, you can have them for the weekend.

I'm not going to fight with you about that. Please take them. And the small family, and this is I think structurally a lot, the small family structure is feeding parents becoming enmeshed with their kids, some parents. And so their kids become their partners, especially in these high conflict divorces.

I'm not going to fight with you about that. Please take them. And the small family, and this is I think structurally a lot, the small family structure is feeding parents becoming enmeshed with their kids, some parents. And so their kids become their partners, especially in these high conflict divorces.

I'm not going to fight with you about that. Please take them. And the small family, and this is I think structurally a lot, the small family structure is feeding parents becoming enmeshed with their kids, some parents. And so their kids become their partners, especially in these high conflict divorces.

Now dad's a bad guy, mom's a bad woman, and the child, especially often the oldest child, now is my best friend, my kind of junior partner in the world. And that's where you see a lot of – you start getting alienated kids. Now they hate dad and mom's perfect or they hate mom and dad's perfect.

Now dad's a bad guy, mom's a bad woman, and the child, especially often the oldest child, now is my best friend, my kind of junior partner in the world. And that's where you see a lot of – you start getting alienated kids. Now they hate dad and mom's perfect or they hate mom and dad's perfect.

Now dad's a bad guy, mom's a bad woman, and the child, especially often the oldest child, now is my best friend, my kind of junior partner in the world. And that's where you see a lot of – you start getting alienated kids. Now they hate dad and mom's perfect or they hate mom and dad's perfect.

And it's partly the culture is fulfilling that, that we're now seeing everything in like opposing terms, all or nothing terms, etc. And the big message I want to get across with this with all parents and kids is it's a question of skills, that the kids aren't growing up with the skills to manage the nuances.

And it's partly the culture is fulfilling that, that we're now seeing everything in like opposing terms, all or nothing terms, etc. And the big message I want to get across with this with all parents and kids is it's a question of skills, that the kids aren't growing up with the skills to manage the nuances.

And it's partly the culture is fulfilling that, that we're now seeing everything in like opposing terms, all or nothing terms, etc. And the big message I want to get across with this with all parents and kids is it's a question of skills, that the kids aren't growing up with the skills to manage the nuances.

And so we teach a lot of our skills and we teach parents, teach these to your kids in divorce. Flexible thinking, teach them flexible thinking, teach them managed emotions, teach them to moderate their behavior. Teach them to check themselves. Wait a minute. Am I doing something here rather than always you, you, you? And we developed a method.

And so we teach a lot of our skills and we teach parents, teach these to your kids in divorce. Flexible thinking, teach them flexible thinking, teach them managed emotions, teach them to moderate their behavior. Teach them to check themselves. Wait a minute. Am I doing something here rather than always you, you, you? And we developed a method.

And so we teach a lot of our skills and we teach parents, teach these to your kids in divorce. Flexible thinking, teach them flexible thinking, teach them managed emotions, teach them to moderate their behavior. Teach them to check themselves. Wait a minute. Am I doing something here rather than always you, you, you? And we developed a method.

We call it New Ways for Families, which was designed for high conflict divorce cases for both parents to kind of learn these skills and practice either with a therapist or a coach or just watching online and typing in answers. To practice these four, we call these the four big skills for life. And this is, I think, what parents need to teach their kids is you can solve that problem.

We call it New Ways for Families, which was designed for high conflict divorce cases for both parents to kind of learn these skills and practice either with a therapist or a coach or just watching online and typing in answers. To practice these four, we call these the four big skills for life. And this is, I think, what parents need to teach their kids is you can solve that problem.

We call it New Ways for Families, which was designed for high conflict divorce cases for both parents to kind of learn these skills and practice either with a therapist or a coach or just watching online and typing in answers. To practice these four, we call these the four big skills for life. And this is, I think, what parents need to teach their kids is you can solve that problem.

Tell me what happened. Okay, let's talk about what you could say to Johnny. And we teach skills we call ear statements, empathy, attention, and respect, a statement that shows that. And so we teach parents. Teach your child, you know, your best friend who just broke up with you might be feeling hurt about something. Maybe something they said. What can you do?