Bill Eddy

Or in court, I've seen this, where there'll be a very reasonable person kind of explaining the situation. And their partner, more often a woman, is just emotional, is a mess, maybe even in tears. And people don't realize about 80% of divorces in court today, people represent themselves. And so there's these conversations. And the judge is like, well, this guy's being really reasonable.

Or in court, I've seen this, where there'll be a very reasonable person kind of explaining the situation. And their partner, more often a woman, is just emotional, is a mess, maybe even in tears. And people don't realize about 80% of divorces in court today, people represent themselves. And so there's these conversations. And the judge is like, well, this guy's being really reasonable.

Or in court, I've seen this, where there'll be a very reasonable person kind of explaining the situation. And their partner, more often a woman, is just emotional, is a mess, maybe even in tears. And people don't realize about 80% of divorces in court today, people represent themselves. And so there's these conversations. And the judge is like, well, this guy's being really reasonable.

And this woman's a mess. I mean, you know, I'm going to go with what he's saying. And so a lot of stuff slips under the radar that way. But gender-wise, it could be the reverse. And a lot of relationships people get into, people make themselves look really good. And then the negative stuff comes out weeks, months, maybe a year later. you decide to commit. Because nowadays, who knows?

And this woman's a mess. I mean, you know, I'm going to go with what he's saying. And so a lot of stuff slips under the radar that way. But gender-wise, it could be the reverse. And a lot of relationships people get into, people make themselves look really good. And then the negative stuff comes out weeks, months, maybe a year later. you decide to commit. Because nowadays, who knows?

And this woman's a mess. I mean, you know, I'm going to go with what he's saying. And so a lot of stuff slips under the radar that way. But gender-wise, it could be the reverse. And a lot of relationships people get into, people make themselves look really good. And then the negative stuff comes out weeks, months, maybe a year later. you decide to commit. Because nowadays, who knows?

You may have someone that really is good at covering their bad behavior.

You may have someone that really is good at covering their bad behavior.

You may have someone that really is good at covering their bad behavior.

Yes. And that's many, many of the high conflict divorces that I've worked on as a lawyer and before that as a therapist and sometimes as a mediator are, in my mind, kind of the bad luck stories. Got a decent person, usually my client, of course, but something happened, they got together too fast and And then all this stuff came out.

Yes. And that's many, many of the high conflict divorces that I've worked on as a lawyer and before that as a therapist and sometimes as a mediator are, in my mind, kind of the bad luck stories. Got a decent person, usually my client, of course, but something happened, they got together too fast and And then all this stuff came out.

Yes. And that's many, many of the high conflict divorces that I've worked on as a lawyer and before that as a therapist and sometimes as a mediator are, in my mind, kind of the bad luck stories. Got a decent person, usually my client, of course, but something happened, they got together too fast and And then all this stuff came out.

And I really believe in today's world that it is a matter of luck. And that's why you should take a year to find out, did I draw the short straw in this relationship? Have I got this perfect looking person? Great record, all these good things. But close relationships is where personality disorders come out, interpersonal difficulties and the high conflict behaviors, mostly close relationships.

And I really believe in today's world that it is a matter of luck. And that's why you should take a year to find out, did I draw the short straw in this relationship? Have I got this perfect looking person? Great record, all these good things. But close relationships is where personality disorders come out, interpersonal difficulties and the high conflict behaviors, mostly close relationships.

And I really believe in today's world that it is a matter of luck. And that's why you should take a year to find out, did I draw the short straw in this relationship? Have I got this perfect looking person? Great record, all these good things. But close relationships is where personality disorders come out, interpersonal difficulties and the high conflict behaviors, mostly close relationships.

So they might, everyone might like them at work, but when you're home alone with them, they could be really terrible, yelling, hitting, doing all of this stuff. So that's why we say wait a year. I've had a lot of cases where people tell me, we just fell in love, it was beautiful and everything was wonderful for about six months.

So they might, everyone might like them at work, but when you're home alone with them, they could be really terrible, yelling, hitting, doing all of this stuff. So that's why we say wait a year. I've had a lot of cases where people tell me, we just fell in love, it was beautiful and everything was wonderful for about six months.

So they might, everyone might like them at work, but when you're home alone with them, they could be really terrible, yelling, hitting, doing all of this stuff. So that's why we say wait a year. I've had a lot of cases where people tell me, we just fell in love, it was beautiful and everything was wonderful for about six months.

And then when I committed to get married, all this stuff started showing up. But I got married anyway because I figured, well, time and love will heal everything. Only it didn't. So in today's world, there's a higher risk of getting a high conflict relationship, I must say. And the description you gave is what people often tell me. They say, my grandparents...

And then when I committed to get married, all this stuff started showing up. But I got married anyway because I figured, well, time and love will heal everything. Only it didn't. So in today's world, there's a higher risk of getting a high conflict relationship, I must say. And the description you gave is what people often tell me. They say, my grandparents...