Bill Eddy

And then when I committed to get married, all this stuff started showing up. But I got married anyway because I figured, well, time and love will heal everything. Only it didn't. So in today's world, there's a higher risk of getting a high conflict relationship, I must say. And the description you gave is what people often tell me. They say, my grandparents...

got married a week after they met, and they just celebrated their 60th anniversary, they're still in love, everything's wonderful. Your grandparents tended to know who they were marrying. In today's world, not only don't you know, you don't have a history, but high conflict people have learned to cover up the full range of who they are. And they're not bad people.

got married a week after they met, and they just celebrated their 60th anniversary, they're still in love, everything's wonderful. Your grandparents tended to know who they were marrying. In today's world, not only don't you know, you don't have a history, but high conflict people have learned to cover up the full range of who they are. And they're not bad people.

got married a week after they met, and they just celebrated their 60th anniversary, they're still in love, everything's wonderful. Your grandparents tended to know who they were marrying. In today's world, not only don't you know, you don't have a history, but high conflict people have learned to cover up the full range of who they are. And they're not bad people.

And that's something I want to emphasize. They just have a different personality. And they may have been born this way, but they don't come with markings. They don't come with the music like of Jaws. They look good. And anybody, I think, is at risk of falling into a relationship like this.

And that's something I want to emphasize. They just have a different personality. And they may have been born this way, but they don't come with markings. They don't come with the music like of Jaws. They look good. And anybody, I think, is at risk of falling into a relationship like this.

And that's something I want to emphasize. They just have a different personality. And they may have been born this way, but they don't come with markings. They don't come with the music like of Jaws. They look good. And anybody, I think, is at risk of falling into a relationship like this.

Except for the last one, is it's really don't commit like getting married within the first year. Sometimes moving in together is a good way to find out what it's like up close with this person. Yeah, you learn a lot by living with somebody. That's right. That's right. And personality disorders, part of the definition is interpersonal dysfunction. And that's close. That's close relationships.

Except for the last one, is it's really don't commit like getting married within the first year. Sometimes moving in together is a good way to find out what it's like up close with this person. Yeah, you learn a lot by living with somebody. That's right. That's right. And personality disorders, part of the definition is interpersonal dysfunction. And that's close. That's close relationships.

Except for the last one, is it's really don't commit like getting married within the first year. Sometimes moving in together is a good way to find out what it's like up close with this person. Yeah, you learn a lot by living with somebody. That's right. That's right. And personality disorders, part of the definition is interpersonal dysfunction. And that's close. That's close relationships.

So if you haven't had that close relationship, you don't see what happens when you leave your socks out or the caps off the toothpaste and some little thing is some huge storm.

So if you haven't had that close relationship, you don't see what happens when you leave your socks out or the caps off the toothpaste and some little thing is some huge storm.

So if you haven't had that close relationship, you don't see what happens when you leave your socks out or the caps off the toothpaste and some little thing is some huge storm.

Right. But the key is patterns of behavior. So one thing I want to say is everybody gets angry sometimes. That's fine. Everybody yells sometimes. Everybody, you know, criticizes sometimes. But if they have a pattern, like their life pattern of relationship is to yell and scream and criticize and all that, whoa, this pattern is probably going to keep going.

Right. But the key is patterns of behavior. So one thing I want to say is everybody gets angry sometimes. That's fine. Everybody yells sometimes. Everybody, you know, criticizes sometimes. But if they have a pattern, like their life pattern of relationship is to yell and scream and criticize and all that, whoa, this pattern is probably going to keep going.

Right. But the key is patterns of behavior. So one thing I want to say is everybody gets angry sometimes. That's fine. Everybody yells sometimes. Everybody, you know, criticizes sometimes. But if they have a pattern, like their life pattern of relationship is to yell and scream and criticize and all that, whoa, this pattern is probably going to keep going.

And as I mentioned earlier, I believe, with personality disorders, it's a narrower pattern of behavior. So it's more pattern-driven behavior. in several different settings, family, maybe at work when it's closed, maybe in the community when it's closed. So these are recognizable patterns, as recognizable as alcoholism and addiction once people learn. So that's the key.

And as I mentioned earlier, I believe, with personality disorders, it's a narrower pattern of behavior. So it's more pattern-driven behavior. in several different settings, family, maybe at work when it's closed, maybe in the community when it's closed. So these are recognizable patterns, as recognizable as alcoholism and addiction once people learn. So that's the key.

And as I mentioned earlier, I believe, with personality disorders, it's a narrower pattern of behavior. So it's more pattern-driven behavior. in several different settings, family, maybe at work when it's closed, maybe in the community when it's closed. So these are recognizable patterns, as recognizable as alcoholism and addiction once people learn. So that's the key.

Give yourself some time, see if this stuff comes to the surface.