Bob Burg

But if I say something, what happens? I'm going to be and then what was that word? Canceled. Yes. Okay. And now the people who I want to have like me are going to shun me. So there's a lot there. And again, I'm not being political either. We're just talking about human nature and what we have seen happen. Yeah.

But if I say something, what happens? I'm going to be and then what was that word? Canceled. Yes. Okay. And now the people who I want to have like me are going to shun me. So there's a lot there. And again, I'm not being political either. We're just talking about human nature and what we have seen happen. Yeah.

So that, that does hurt a person in terms of being, having the guts as you did to be congruent with your values.

So that, that does hurt a person in terms of being, having the guts as you did to be congruent with your values.

I love how you think. I think the problem is the attachment to caring what other people think of us. It's okay to prefer it. OK, I you know, I would love everybody to like everybody. You know, I mean, that would be great. But we you know, I wish everybody like me. Why not? I'm a human being. Of course I want I want that.

I love how you think. I think the problem is the attachment to caring what other people think of us. It's okay to prefer it. OK, I you know, I would love everybody to like everybody. You know, I mean, that would be great. But we you know, I wish everybody like me. Why not? I'm a human being. Of course I want I want that.

But if I'm attached to them having to like me, that means that they're liking me is dependent upon my doing things that are congruent with their values, not mine. And I think that's where it really comes into play. And again, by saying being congruent with one's values, I don't mean any way you should be trying to insult someone.

But if I'm attached to them having to like me, that means that they're liking me is dependent upon my doing things that are congruent with their values, not mine. And I think that's where it really comes into play. And again, by saying being congruent with one's values, I don't mean any way you should be trying to insult someone.

No, again, that's that authenticity that people use for kind of not being a caring, tactful, kind, what have you. No, but I'm just saying that when push comes to shove, we've got to be true to ourselves and our values if we're going to be happy. And that's where attachment comes into play.

No, again, that's that authenticity that people use for kind of not being a caring, tactful, kind, what have you. No, but I'm just saying that when push comes to shove, we've got to be true to ourselves and our values if we're going to be happy. And that's where attachment comes into play.

You know, you can prefer for people to like you, but it's the attachment to them having to, which means you're not happy in and of yourself. Your happiness is dependent upon outside circumstances. And, you know, everything from philosophies such as the Stoics to the Buddhists to Judeo-Christian to all sorts of have all taught us.

You know, you can prefer for people to like you, but it's the attachment to them having to, which means you're not happy in and of yourself. Your happiness is dependent upon outside circumstances. And, you know, everything from philosophies such as the Stoics to the Buddhists to Judeo-Christian to all sorts of have all taught us.

So that's very healthy, by the way.

So that's very healthy, by the way.

Well, I think first it begins with awareness. And that's what you really, that your mentor helped you to see. Because you didn't really understand why you were doing the things that you were doing, what were the implications, and how did that really affect you? You know what I'm saying?

Well, I think first it begins with awareness. And that's what you really, that your mentor helped you to see. Because you didn't really understand why you were doing the things that you were doing, what were the implications, and how did that really affect you? You know what I'm saying?

You knew it didn't feel good to have them, you know, you were in an environment that was not welcoming, you know, to that, where there are other environments that, which are very healthy environments, which love respectful disagreement. Ray Dalio talks a lot about that in his book, Principles. It's respectful disagreement, but it's disagreement, right?

You knew it didn't feel good to have them, you know, you were in an environment that was not welcoming, you know, to that, where there are other environments that, which are very healthy environments, which love respectful disagreement. Ray Dalio talks a lot about that in his book, Principles. It's respectful disagreement, but it's disagreement, right?

Um, but so, so the first part is just being aware of it and then saying, uh, you know, and, and like, like you did, and I thought you said it beautifully that, that you can, you know, that you can prefer a certain result or that somebody, but you're not, but you're okay with it if that's not the result. Then you've got to just work at it. That's really all you can do.

Um, but so, so the first part is just being aware of it and then saying, uh, you know, and, and like, like you did, and I thought you said it beautifully that, that you can, you know, that you can prefer a certain result or that somebody, but you're not, but you're okay with it if that's not the result. Then you've got to just work at it. That's really all you can do.