Brad Stulberg

There's this story that I came across that didn't make it into the book when researching about the Dalai Lama.

And just I think that this exemplifies emotional flexibility is genocide came up in a conversation with him and he just started weeping.

just weeping, like crying full force tears of sadness and sorrow.

And then they were brought cookies by his attendant.

And he took a bite of a chocolate chip cookie and the biggest smile came on his face.

And within the course of a couple seconds, so being able to hold it all, like the despair and the sorrow of genocide and the joy of a freshly baked cookie,

And just to create enough space for all that, that is another capacity of wisdom.

I'm not there yet.

I intellectually know enough about it to write about it.

So much of my own practice of groundedness is this notion of emotional flexibility of being able to hold everything at once so that I don't get pushed and pulled around by it.

It's hard to go at it alone.

It's hard to stay on the path.

It's hard to have fun.

It's hard to be consistent.

It's hard to accept where you are.

It's hard to be present.

It's hard to be vulnerable.

So let's make it easier and more fun.

And how do you do it?

You find people that get it, that are walking a similar path as you, and you say, hey, let's do this together.