Brad Stulberg

And that is an illusion as old as time.

And that is an illusion as old as time.

Literally stoicism and Buddhism were both in some ways created to address that illusion.

Literally stoicism and Buddhism were both in some ways created to address that illusion.

Modern science, we call this the arrival fallacy.

Modern science, we call this the arrival fallacy.

And it's just that, it's this notion that if I just do this, then I'll arrive.

And it's just that, it's this notion that if I just do this, then I'll arrive.

And I think that heroic individualism often can perpetuate that by telling us that we need to get something out in front of us for ourselves to feel whole.

And I think that heroic individualism often can perpetuate that by telling us that we need to get something out in front of us for ourselves to feel whole.

And groundedness is not about checking out into a monastery and letting go of striving and desire.

And groundedness is not about checking out into a monastery and letting go of striving and desire.

What it's about is trying to channel striving, desire, motivation, energy, drive in more skillful, productive ways.

What it's about is trying to channel striving, desire, motivation, energy, drive in more skillful, productive ways.

So if you think about there's two ways to climb a mountain, and this can be a real mountain, but it can also be a metaphorical mountain.

So if you think about there's two ways to climb a mountain, and this can be a real mountain, but it can also be a metaphorical mountain.

You can think of this as career advancement, relationship advancement, you name it.

You can think of this as career advancement, relationship advancement, you name it.

And one way is to constantly be thinking about the top of the mountain and thinking about the selfies that you're going to take when you get there and how good you're going to feel when you finally arrive.

And one way is to constantly be thinking about the top of the mountain and thinking about the selfies that you're going to take when you get there and how good you're going to feel when you finally arrive.