Brad Stulberg

So this is the situation you're in, this is you, and there's space between, but sometimes you fuse.

So this is the situation you're in, this is you, and there's space between, but sometimes you fuse.

And when you fuse, it's very hard to see clearly.

And when you fuse, it's very hard to see clearly.

And if you can't see where you are clearly, then whatever actions you take, whatever habits you try to develop aren't actually gonna help because you're working on the wrong thing.

And if you can't see where you are clearly, then whatever actions you take, whatever habits you try to develop aren't actually gonna help because you're working on the wrong thing.

You're not starting where you are.

You're not starting where you are.

So acceptance is really about being able to objectively and clearly see your starting point.

So acceptance is really about being able to objectively and clearly see your starting point.

Now, how do you do this if I just said how easy it is to fuse, especially in meaningful emotional situations?

Now, how do you do this if I just said how easy it is to fuse, especially in meaningful emotional situations?

Researchers call this self-distancing.

Researchers call this self-distancing.

And what self-distancing means is creating some space between the thing you're experiencing and your wiser self.

And what self-distancing means is creating some space between the thing you're experiencing and your wiser self.

A couple of ways to do this.

A couple of ways to do this.

One way that I'd love is to pretend that a close friend is in the exact same situation as you and really visualize that friend going through what you're going through and then give advice to that friend.

One way that I'd love is to pretend that a close friend is in the exact same situation as you and really visualize that friend going through what you're going through and then give advice to that friend.