Brad Stulberg
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And then, of course, you actually have to take that advice yourself.
And then, of course, you actually have to take that advice yourself.
Another way to do this, especially if you're making an important decision that feels really tough, is imagine yourself 30 years down the road looking back on current you.
Another way to do this, especially if you're making an important decision that feels really tough, is imagine yourself 30 years down the road looking back on current you.
What is 30 years from you now going to be proud of?
What is 30 years from you now going to be proud of?
And then that's the thing that you should do.
And then that's the thing that you should do.
A third way to do this is through some sort of mindfulness meditation or contemplative practice where your focus is on the breath, you have a thought or feeling, you recognize it, you come back to the breath.
A third way to do this is through some sort of mindfulness meditation or contemplative practice where your focus is on the breath, you have a thought or feeling, you recognize it, you come back to the breath.
Ultimately, what that's training you to do is to be able to see thoughts and feelings as separate entities from yourself, and it's creating that space.
Ultimately, what that's training you to do is to be able to see thoughts and feelings as separate entities from yourself, and it's creating that space.
And then the fourth thing to do that is supported both by ancient wisdom and modern science is to simply name what you're going through.
And then the fourth thing to do that is supported both by ancient wisdom and modern science is to simply name what you're going through.
When we name something, researchers call this affect labeling.
When we name something, researchers call this affect labeling.
Back in the Bible, the quote is, if you give something a name, it loses its power over you.
Back in the Bible, the quote is, if you give something a name, it loses its power over you.
And basically what you're doing is once you give something a name, once you put language to something, you allow yourself to wrestle with that thing.
And basically what you're doing is once you give something a name, once you put language to something, you allow yourself to wrestle with that thing.