Brad Watts

I actually love that it's bringing up these questions. So I think there are two ways to respond to the parents you come from. One way is to look at their behavior, their patterns, their values, and go, ugh, this is sad, this doesn't sit well with me, but this is just the way it is. I guess I'm stuck with the patterns that they helped create, like this pattern of pushing people away.

I actually love that it's bringing up these questions. So I think there are two ways to respond to the parents you come from. One way is to look at their behavior, their patterns, their values, and go, ugh, this is sad, this doesn't sit well with me, but this is just the way it is. I guess I'm stuck with the patterns that they helped create, like this pattern of pushing people away.

I actually love that it's bringing up these questions. So I think there are two ways to respond to the parents you come from. One way is to look at their behavior, their patterns, their values, and go, ugh, this is sad, this doesn't sit well with me, but this is just the way it is. I guess I'm stuck with the patterns that they helped create, like this pattern of pushing people away.

The other way to respond to your parents is, I really don't like a lot of what I see in my house. I can see how this stuff has made me the kind of person I am today, and I want to do things differently. I want to treat people differently. I want to have more meaningful relationships.

The other way to respond to your parents is, I really don't like a lot of what I see in my house. I can see how this stuff has made me the kind of person I am today, and I want to do things differently. I want to treat people differently. I want to have more meaningful relationships.

The other way to respond to your parents is, I really don't like a lot of what I see in my house. I can see how this stuff has made me the kind of person I am today, and I want to do things differently. I want to treat people differently. I want to have more meaningful relationships.

I want to be the best version of myself according to the values and experiences that I find important, which is precisely what you're doing just by asking these questions, which is terrific. So in a way, what's happening at home, it's really tragic and frustrating. In another way, though, your parents are giving you a very clear model to avoid.

I want to be the best version of myself according to the values and experiences that I find important, which is precisely what you're doing just by asking these questions, which is terrific. So in a way, what's happening at home, it's really tragic and frustrating. In another way, though, your parents are giving you a very clear model to avoid.

I want to be the best version of myself according to the values and experiences that I find important, which is precisely what you're doing just by asking these questions, which is terrific. So in a way, what's happening at home, it's really tragic and frustrating. In another way, though, your parents are giving you a very clear model to avoid.

They're showing you what happens when you don't treat people well, when you don't really listen to what your children are asking of you, when you don't show up for the people you love. So one great way to chart a different path, to learn the right principles, as you put it, is to basically do the opposite of what your parents do in these departments. Treat people kindly, respectfully.

They're showing you what happens when you don't treat people well, when you don't really listen to what your children are asking of you, when you don't show up for the people you love. So one great way to chart a different path, to learn the right principles, as you put it, is to basically do the opposite of what your parents do in these departments. Treat people kindly, respectfully.

They're showing you what happens when you don't treat people well, when you don't really listen to what your children are asking of you, when you don't show up for the people you love. So one great way to chart a different path, to learn the right principles, as you put it, is to basically do the opposite of what your parents do in these departments. Treat people kindly, respectfully.

Resist the impulse to diminish or shame people. Don't cheat on your partners. Don't try to one-up people or play power games with them. Show up for your friends and family, whether it's supporting them at events or helping them through a tough time or lending a generous ear, whatever that looks like. And look, you don't need to be perfect at all these things.

Resist the impulse to diminish or shame people. Don't cheat on your partners. Don't try to one-up people or play power games with them. Show up for your friends and family, whether it's supporting them at events or helping them through a tough time or lending a generous ear, whatever that looks like. And look, you don't need to be perfect at all these things.

Resist the impulse to diminish or shame people. Don't cheat on your partners. Don't try to one-up people or play power games with them. Show up for your friends and family, whether it's supporting them at events or helping them through a tough time or lending a generous ear, whatever that looks like. And look, you don't need to be perfect at all these things.

They might feel a little awkward, a little scary, kind of vulnerable, but that's okay. In fact, that is good. Those feelings are signs that you're relating to people in a very different way from your parents and you're having a totally new experience of the world. And while you do that, I also wouldn't judge the parts of yourself that might look a little like your parents sometimes.

They might feel a little awkward, a little scary, kind of vulnerable, but that's okay. In fact, that is good. Those feelings are signs that you're relating to people in a very different way from your parents and you're having a totally new experience of the world. And while you do that, I also wouldn't judge the parts of yourself that might look a little like your parents sometimes.

They might feel a little awkward, a little scary, kind of vulnerable, but that's okay. In fact, that is good. Those feelings are signs that you're relating to people in a very different way from your parents and you're having a totally new experience of the world. And while you do that, I also wouldn't judge the parts of yourself that might look a little like your parents sometimes.

For example, sometimes you might catch yourself mentally cutting someone down or being a little cold with somebody who's being nice to you. or worrying about where you fall in the pecking order of your office or your friend group, just to name a few examples of tendencies that you might have inherited from your parents and also from the culture at large.

For example, sometimes you might catch yourself mentally cutting someone down or being a little cold with somebody who's being nice to you. or worrying about where you fall in the pecking order of your office or your friend group, just to name a few examples of tendencies that you might have inherited from your parents and also from the culture at large.