Brad Watts

For example, sometimes you might catch yourself mentally cutting someone down or being a little cold with somebody who's being nice to you. or worrying about where you fall in the pecking order of your office or your friend group, just to name a few examples of tendencies that you might have inherited from your parents and also from the culture at large.

And if those things come up, I wouldn't do to yourself what you say your mom does to people, which is shame yourself. Like, God, I'm so petty. I'm so judgy. I'm failing to live up to my ideals. I guess I really am just like them. There's no need for that. I would just notice those thoughts, notice those tendencies when they pop up and go, huh, interesting. All right, there's mom, there's dad.

And if those things come up, I wouldn't do to yourself what you say your mom does to people, which is shame yourself. Like, God, I'm so petty. I'm so judgy. I'm failing to live up to my ideals. I guess I really am just like them. There's no need for that. I would just notice those thoughts, notice those tendencies when they pop up and go, huh, interesting. All right, there's mom, there's dad.

And if those things come up, I wouldn't do to yourself what you say your mom does to people, which is shame yourself. Like, God, I'm so petty. I'm so judgy. I'm failing to live up to my ideals. I guess I really am just like them. There's no need for that. I would just notice those thoughts, notice those tendencies when they pop up and go, huh, interesting. All right, there's mom, there's dad.

That's the thing I've seen them do 100 times. There's that old me who defaults to keeping people at arm's length, whatever it is. And then you just have to meet those parts of yourself with a little bit of curiosity and compassion. Ask yourself why they're there, what they might be trying to do for you, whether they fit with your new goals and values.

That's the thing I've seen them do 100 times. There's that old me who defaults to keeping people at arm's length, whatever it is. And then you just have to meet those parts of yourself with a little bit of curiosity and compassion. Ask yourself why they're there, what they might be trying to do for you, whether they fit with your new goals and values.

That's the thing I've seen them do 100 times. There's that old me who defaults to keeping people at arm's length, whatever it is. And then you just have to meet those parts of yourself with a little bit of curiosity and compassion. Ask yourself why they're there, what they might be trying to do for you, whether they fit with your new goals and values.

That'll get you a lot further than beating yourself up and condemning them, which is another pattern that you might be in the process of rewriting.

That'll get you a lot further than beating yourself up and condemning them, which is another pattern that you might be in the process of rewriting.

That'll get you a lot further than beating yourself up and condemning them, which is another pattern that you might be in the process of rewriting.

Exactly. If you want to lead with kindness, be kind. If you want to have close relationships, be vulnerable. Let people be vulnerable with you. If you want to have loyal friends, be loyal. Do what you say you will. Show up when it counts. It's not all that complicated, but it does require work and some courage and vulnerability and meeting people. and meeting yourself in a new way.

Exactly. If you want to lead with kindness, be kind. If you want to have close relationships, be vulnerable. Let people be vulnerable with you. If you want to have loyal friends, be loyal. Do what you say you will. Show up when it counts. It's not all that complicated, but it does require work and some courage and vulnerability and meeting people. and meeting yourself in a new way.

Exactly. If you want to lead with kindness, be kind. If you want to have close relationships, be vulnerable. Let people be vulnerable with you. If you want to have loyal friends, be loyal. Do what you say you will. Show up when it counts. It's not all that complicated, but it does require work and some courage and vulnerability and meeting people. and meeting yourself in a new way.

Exactly. Your feelings will settle. Your relationship with your parents will land where it needs to land. There's productive thinking about the future. And then there's just fantasy and speculation, which usually isn't very helpful. Again, I'm so sorry that you're struggling with your parents these days. I'm sorry for them that they feel the need to conduct themselves that way.

Exactly. Your feelings will settle. Your relationship with your parents will land where it needs to land. There's productive thinking about the future. And then there's just fantasy and speculation, which usually isn't very helpful. Again, I'm so sorry that you're struggling with your parents these days. I'm sorry for them that they feel the need to conduct themselves that way.

Exactly. Your feelings will settle. Your relationship with your parents will land where it needs to land. There's productive thinking about the future. And then there's just fantasy and speculation, which usually isn't very helpful. Again, I'm so sorry that you're struggling with your parents these days. I'm sorry for them that they feel the need to conduct themselves that way.

I'm sure they're doing their best with the resources and understanding they have. It sucks. But like I said, it's also showing you the path not to take. And from that perspective, coming from this kind of home is also a strange gift. If you know what to do with it, which you clearly do, sending you a big hug, you got this.

I'm sure they're doing their best with the resources and understanding they have. It sucks. But like I said, it's also showing you the path not to take. And from that perspective, coming from this kind of home is also a strange gift. If you know what to do with it, which you clearly do, sending you a big hug, you got this.

I'm sure they're doing their best with the resources and understanding they have. It sucks. But like I said, it's also showing you the path not to take. And from that perspective, coming from this kind of home is also a strange gift. If you know what to do with it, which you clearly do, sending you a big hug, you got this.

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