Brandon Epstein

Okay.

Just to sit in the shit pit of full awareness of all the feelings.

Then from there, set an alarm for the next week that go, okay.

feel what's coming up, and then ask yourself, what were you focused on?

Then you can start to take some kind of ownership over like, where are those thoughts coming from?

How is my focus creating the way that I feel, right?

And you can start to see your beliefs by connecting those dots of like, all right, why is that making me feel angry?

So you have to feel first and then notice what you're focusing on.

And then you start to come into this feeling of, all right, well, I'm seeing it, right?

It's the four stages of learning.

You're getting to this place of conscious incompetence.

I see that I make myself feel bad.

I don't know how I'm doing it.

And then you can go, okay, what if I started to flip the focus and I started to build that muscle?

Because this is the way I think about the mind and all of these things is it's a muscle just like the body.

You can start to train it.

Your mind just picks up on these patterns of repetition.

Just like striking a bag, just like anything else, if you do something over and over again, right, you say the same things to yourself over and over again, the repetition starts to make its way down to the subconscious level.

So you don't want to focus on the thing that is good for you because it feels like, oh, yucky.

It's like I'm lying to myself.