Brené Brown

Keep showing up.

Don't buy into the bullshit that it's supposed to be easy.

It'll be the hardest thing you ever do.

And ask for help.

And that's not, there's no, I wish I could give you like a, here's the secret to it.

But the secret to us is we keep showing up.

We know it's not supposed to be easy.

And we get help.

Well, we get external help, but we read, we try new things, we try new tools.

We don't ever want to be done learning and trying to be better for ourselves and for each other.

And that's a lot.

I mean, 38 years together is...

not just like the slow roll movie of a life and a family, but we've buried parents.

You know, we've gone through illnesses.

We've raised, you know, kids.

We've gone through different seasons in our own lives where we were not synced at all.

It's really, really hard.

But I'm more proud of it than anything I've ever done because my setup for success was zero.

Yeah.

My mom died on Christmas Day after my sisters and I were her primary caregiver for four years with dementia.