Brené Brown
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
And in fact, in our research over the last 15 years, we found the average person can accurately identify and name three emotions, happy, sad, pissed off.
And so in my family, sad was not an option.
That was weakness.
So you could be pissed or okay.
So when I get scared, when I feel grief,
When I'm anxious, when I feel disappointment, when I feel anguish, I'm just angry.
I wanted out of where I was raised.
I wanted to leave everything I knew.
And so I always felt like an outsider.
I didn't
I didn't want to, I mean, I wasn't popular.
I wasn't dating a quarterback.
That was a dream that my parents and their parents and their parents, you know, you were a bear cadet and you dated a quarterback and you got a farm.
So I felt not cute, not popular, not understood.
And then at home,
I wasn't easygoing.
I was anxious and always ready.
Oh, because my parents parented with a very big heaping dose of shame.
Yeah.
And a ton of it was about appearance, being fun.