Brené Brown

And then each person says, but I didn't want to go.

I thought you wanted to go.

Well, no, no, no.

I didn't want to go either.

I thought it was you.

And even the person who suggested the trip in the first place says, I don't want to go.

I was just trying to come up with something for us to do, but I wasn't into it.

I just, I thought other people were excited about it.

And it turned out that everybody went because they assumed everyone else wanted to go and nobody voiced their real preference.

This happens so often.

It happens in team meetings.

It happens on family vacations.

It happens when friends get together and try to figure out what they want to do.

And I think we might've been doing it too, but I'm so curious to hear your reactions to the Abilene Paradox, because it's such a common and familiar example of

We're misreading other people's preferences.

We're assuming a norm existing when it doesn't.

I thought you wanted to do that.

What do you think is our worst example so far?

Or our most vivid?

Yeah.