Brené Brown

I mean, even a simple example that just happened of, I thought we had to record in one complete take.

I thought you wanted to do that.

And you're like, no, no, I want to be able to pause and say, wait, is this a rabbit hole?

Should we keep talking about this?

We can cut that.

And we just assumed that the other wanted to just record and be done.

Time out.

Zach Morris.

Wait, wait, Brene, are you saying your family didn't pre-mortem all of your trips?

So ideally what they would all do is brainwriting where they each jot down the ideas they're genuinely excited about and then submit them anonymously.

Even do it on a piece of paper, you know, throw it in a hat and then shake it up and go around and read them.

And then they could do an anonymous vote or they could each have a veto.

But something to surface their independent preferences without having to necessarily own them because otherwise they're starting to worry about, but what does everybody else want to do?

and maybe even sometimes implicitly conforming to that.

I love that.

I mean, first of all, yeah, I want you to have fun.

And if you're having fun, I'm going to have fun.

I love that.

That's a mark of a real connection.

I'm also thinking about the way we've solved this in our family.