Brené Brown

It's just not the way gravity works.

Neither gravity nor grief work that way.

No.

And I think this is one of the reasons why...

I feel like I know a lot of couples who basically are each other's primary and sometimes only source of all emotional support.

And you need other people that you can both rely on, not just to complain about each other, but also because there will be times when you're both hurting and one of you is not in a position to care for the other or in both directions for that matter.

Yeah, I think the whole...

I think finding, that's why, you know, and again, I think it's such an access issue, but finding good therapists, good coaches.

If I could wave a healthcare wand, it'd be in my top three things that I would want to provide for everybody.

Just access to be able to sit across from someone who, when you're untethered and you can't find the ground, can provide support.

an opportunity to talk through how to get back there, you know, that's not directly connected to your own grief, you know, or fear, anxiety, whatever it is.

I think it's, that should not be privileged.

No.

And we've lost community.

We've lost community and we've lost multi-generational living and we've lost a lot of the things that provided it before it became professionalized.

So I do think it's part of the loneliness.

Yeah, I think so too.

And I think one of the things that that community used to do was give you an outlet for the longing that you're describing.

I've noticed that when people go through loss, whether it's the death of a loved one or even in some cases, just a relationship that ends and it's more ambiguous loss, no one asks you about it.

And it's strange because they think that they're being polite and maybe even respectful to not remind you.