Brenda Dennehy

I've given him chance after chance.

He might stay off it for a few weeks but his behaviour changes and I know he's using again, drinking again and the cycle starts all over.

I'm struggling so much and it's affecting my whole day.

How do you ever trust someone again after this?

How do you support them without losing yourself?

And how do you rebuild anything when it keeps happening?

i would really love if you could explore what's going on in the mind of someone like my husband and also talk about what it's like for those of us on the other side of it trying to cope trying to hold everything together followed you for a long time and find you very inspiring so i really appreciate hearing this discussed thank you so much and that's from g we'll leave it at g

As I said, this is one I keep getting like, from my perspective, the person can't understand how the person just can't stop and they want to be able to save them.

And I think it's just very hard for the loved one, the partner, the wife, the husband, just very hard.

Like, can you, I suppose, get into the mind of, I suppose, the person addicted and like explain why can't they just stop even for the sake of a family?

I suppose I look back on my own, you know, kinds of active addiction.

And if I was ever, you know, like, why can't you just stop?

Like it seems so easy, but it's like it's a mental health issue.

It's absolutely it's just you just can't stop.

And actually, my friend last night, there was a guy she really, really liked, actually, and he had been sober the last couple of years and he ended up relapsing.

actually last night and oh my god my heart went out because i was thinking about what he was going to be like today and the dread and the fear and i was telling her this is going to be times a hundred hangover like this is going to be just desperate but he kept ringing her wanting to meet her and you know she wanted to save him

She wanted to save him.

And I was like, you just, no.

I said this, like, we can't go meet the person.

And like, obviously we were fearing for safety, but going in there and stepping in and it was, you just couldn't, you just can't save the person.