Brené Brown

And then this researcher writes, skipping straight to bye feels rude precisely because it omits the pre-closing collaboration.

Do you know in another set of research, the signaling is so strong with your body, kind of like angling toward the exit area moving, that in this other study that I read, when patients see physicians start to do the signaling of a close,

that's when they're most likely to say, oh, I've got a couple of last minute questions.

I've got just a couple more questions because they can see the collaborative dance start to happen.

Okay.

This is why, this is Brown and Levinson's politeness theory.

Do you know this work?

Okay, frames leaving a conversation as a face-threatening act.

It can imply the partner is boring or unimportant or that you're imposing a constraint.

So this four steps really helps collaboratively in something.

I just do it intuitively.

So I will say, oh, shoot, it was so good to see you.

I've got to run.

Can't wait to catch up again.

So I was thinking about the conference where we both were.

Even if I've got to run from one huddle of people talking or just one other person to another one-on-one that is literally 10 feet away, I will still do this.

Oh, shoot, I just saw so-and-so.

I promised him I'd give him some information.

It was so good to catch up.

Glad we get to be at the conference together.