Sober AF, Michael Scott Phobia, and How to Politely End a Conversation

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The Curiosity Shop with Brené Brown and Adam Grant 1h 1m 3 speakers 8 chapters transcribed 4 months ago
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What personal milestone does Brené celebrate in this episode?

Brené Brown 0:00
Three topics for today. One, let's chat sobriety and my 30 years. I have some interesting thoughts I want to run by you. Two, we're going to talk about not just the office, but why I'm incapable of watching shows that people love. And three, we'll talk about the art and science of gently leading conversations.

How does Brené's sobriety journey relate to personal change?

Brené Brown 0:25
How's that sound?
Adam Grant 0:26
I mean, that's the perfect way to exit this conversation is to talk about how to get out of one.
Brené Brown 0:32
Welcome to The Curiosity Shop.
Adam Grant 0:34
A show from the Fox Media Podcast Network.
Brené Brown 0:42
Hi, everyone. I'm Brené Brown.
Adam Grant 0:44
And I'm Adam Grant.
Brené Brown 0:45
Okay. I thought we'd start with a new question because John and Julie Gottman, who I absolutely love the Gottman's work, are celebrating their 30th anniversary. And they taught me this question. I use it with Steve.

What insights does Brené share about grieving for joy?

Brené Brown 1:02
It's such a good question. What's on your heart and mind?
Adam Grant 1:06
Am I supposed to have different answers to both?
Brené Brown 1:09
I don't know. It depends on how far apart they live in your mind, in your body, I guess. But what's on your heart and mind today, this week, that we can talk about?
Adam Grant 1:17
Well, 30 years. I mean, did you forget your post?
Brené Brown 1:23
Oh, yes. John and Jay Gottman are celebrating their 30th anniversary, and I am celebrating 30 years of sobriety.
Adam Grant 1:31
Congratulations, Brene.
Brené Brown 1:33
Thank you.

Why can't Brené watch The Office despite its popularity?

Brené Brown 1:34
Definitely want to talk about that. It's really exciting. Okay, we'll talk about sobriety. I am dying to talk to you about this conversation. I've had a small version of it with you. And then I spent an hour and a half talking to... My kids, so Charlie, Ellen, and Ellen's new husband, JT. I spent like an hour talking to them about this. I cannot watch the shows that y'all all love, starting with The Office, which is a collection of some of my favorite actors of all time, but I cannot watch it. And so I want to get into why I can't watch it, and then I need you to cure me.
Adam Grant 2:15
I definitely need to cure you. I'm not okay with this. You have to watch The Office.
Brené Brown 2:19
Okay. And then the last thing we're going to talk, what, tell me.

What are the psychological effects of cringe-worthy moments in media?

Adam Grant 2:24
Well, there's one other thing I want to talk about, which is we were at a conference together and you mastered, well, you did a masterclass in something that I've been struggling with. And I want to talk about what your tricks are.
Brené Brown 2:36
What is it?
Adam Grant 2:38
Leaving conversations. How to exit it.
Brené Brown 2:43
I love that I'm a specialist in leaving conversations.

How can one leave conversations respectfully and gracefully?

Brené Brown 2:45
That checks out. Okay, we have talked about this before, and I wasn't sure if we were going to talk about it today, so I prepped with a lit review on leaving conversations. I'm going to tell you why. I was curious. I had this weird experience, I don't know, maybe 15 years ago, when the TED Talk on vulnerability went viral. I saw someone like duo my talk and do a running commentary over the top of it. And I was so fascinated because this guy, this guy kept saying things. Like here, you'll notice that she engineers a quarter of an inch head turn and moves her hips this way when she does a four second pause and moves her left foot. This is conveying. And I was like, what is he freaking talking about? Like, why?
Brené Brown 3:41
What is this like post game analysis that none of those things were in my head? Or listen to the pause here and then look how, you know, have you ever seen people do that where they try to like build a system off something?

What is the shortcut to exiting a conversation without discomfort?

Adam Grant 3:55
I have. Have you seen this? We're even guilty of doing that.
Brené Brown 3:58
Yeah. Oh, that's true.

What shows are Brené and Adam currently watching?

Brené Brown 4:00
We are guilty of doing that sometimes. But I'm talking about the people who don't do it well. Just kidding. So I was curious about how I think about leaving conversations because we have talked about this before. And then I was curious what the literature said. So we'll get to that.
Unknown 4:19
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Brené Brown 4:41
Okay, where do you want to jump in?
Adam Grant 4:43
I think we have to start with sobriety. I think, first of all, you have to take us back to 30 years ago.

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