Brené Brown

And she said, I will never trust anyone again.

And my response immediately in my mind was, damn straight, not a fucking person.

You trust your mama and that's it.

Like that was my response.

But again, that's not the right thing to do, right?

You want a kid who can develop trust with others.

So I said, trust is really hard.

She said, I don't understand it.

And her teacher at the time, Mrs. Bauckham, had a marble jar.

And when the class would collectively make good decisions, she would put marbles in this empty jar.

And when it got full, they'd have an extra recess and party.

And so immediately what came to me, because I'm describing trust, which is a hard concept to a fourth grader, I said, trust is the marble jar.

She's like, what do you mean?

And I said...

Every time you share something with someone that's confidential and they don't share it, they get a marble.

Every time you build trust, when you want to share something really private and personal, you look for a friend whose jar is full of marbles.

Do you have any marble jar friends?

She's like, not the ones I shared with today.

And I said, who are your marble jar friends?

And she said, Hannah and Lorna.