Brené Brown

The first condition is the coach has to be only moderately angry, not too angry.

So they're not berating you to the point of shaming you.

They're kind of firing you up by saying, we got to do better.

This was not good enough.

And secondly, and I think this is the real kicker,

they have to be not normally angry.

So they're not tyrants.

Oh my God, I love this.

They're not typically out of control.

This is a situationally appropriate response from somebody for whom this is out of character.

And so, wow, we must be really blowing it that our level-headed, calm coach is,

is now a little bit worked up and we need to rise to this occasion.

And I mean, to me, that research just decimates the Bobby Knight style of coaching and leadership and says, you actually want the person who, to the point you were making earlier, you want the coach who makes the team feel safe and sets high standards of discipline and performance.

That's it.

Oh my God, I love this.

I love this.

One of the best angry halftime speeches that I've ever heard in like real time because I was there working with this team was a coach who rarely if ever raised his voice.

And he said, and he had tears in his eyes and he said, I'm so effing angry that

You're letting yourselves down.

You're disappointing yourselves.