Brett Cooper

She goes on and she says, Again.

It seems very valid.

You get married.

You choose to have a baby with somebody.

He's not helping.

Your mom says, I want you to have a baby, and then doesn't want to help at night when the baby is up crying every 30 minutes.

You feel totally alone.

You're dealing with postpartum anxiety.

You feel like your baby is going to die at every moment, which a lot of mothers experience.

Those are real things.

That is the point I am trying to drive home here.

All right, now we get into mother three.

Mom3 says, I tried telling my friends that I wasn't coping well with motherhood and was still processing the birth, she had a traumatic birth, and they'd tell me, that's what motherhood is.

One of my friends texted my husband, wow, she's changed, and not in a good way.

It came from a place of care, she and many friends and family told me I had postpartum depression, to seek therapy and to go on medication.

But at the same time, they'd quickly flip it back to, you need to be there for your son, pick yourself up by your bootstraps, move on, it's over and done with.

Everything I went through was just like, no big deal, because the baby's here, your existence doesn't matter.

I mean, all of this is real stuff.

Genuinely, I read this article and I was like, wait, wait, why is everybody so mad at these mothers?

Like, I'm still angry at New York Magazine, but why are we angry at these moms?