Brianna Gomez

Eventually, you are going to feel so empty and lifeless inside because the relationship that you built was just built off of lies.

It's just like you don't have to be someone you're not.

And the right people...

will find you and will meet you where you're at and you don't have to put on a whole performance in order to gain their validation.

And I know, especially when you're younger, it's so easy to be like, oh, he likes surfer girls?

Well, I'm going to start learning how to surf and I'm going to start dressing super beachy and I'm going to post a picture of the waves on my story and this quote that says, live, love, surf on my threads.

Like...

Been there, done that, sister.

We've all, we've all been there.

And it's so funny how, I don't know what it is, we just become so infatuated with people that we think that, oh, maybe they'll notice me if I do this or if I act more like them.

But the truth is, just because you even have something in common with somebody doesn't mean that they're automatically going to notice you and it doesn't mean that it's going to be a healthy relationship.

So just know that if you start your relationship by pretending to be someone you're not and

That's not really a great place to be.

No, and it's so easy when you get excited when you're talking to somebody new and you find out these things and maybe they say that they like a certain outfit or a certain style and of course you want to start dressing that way.

But then next thing you know, you're doing your makeup super dark or you're dying your hair a certain color or you're changing all your hobbies and you're changing your entire identity over all because you want this one person who probably will not last to notice you.

I just don't think that's sustainable long term.

I want to talk to you guys about something called the pink diamond theory.

And if you know, you know, I've mentioned this on Hot and Unbothered before.

So if you have been here with us for a while, you know that this is my number one most favorite foundational analogy, almost, if you will.

It's not an actual scientifically proven theory.