Brianna Gomez

You want their validation.

But

It all comes back to, in my mind, approval.

And here's the thing.

When we aren't getting something, it makes us want it more.

Think of it this way, and this is going to be such a silly example, but okay, you're drinking water on a hot day, okay?

But you know that your water bottle is there and it's ice cold and you have it.

And you might not be drinking it that much, but the second you finish that last drop of water, you're like...

I need more and I need it badly and I need it now.

Once you know that it's not there and that you can't have it, maybe you're really far from a water refill station, when you know you can't have it, that makes you want it way more.

In that situation of my analogy, you're way thirstier when you know that there's no water around.

Whereas otherwise, if I knew there was water in the fridge that I could grab in two seconds...

I would not be that thirsty and I might not be in that big of a rush to grab it.

Silly analogy, but that's how it works in my mind and I'll break it down even more.

If there is someone who maybe you weren't even that interested in, okay?

We'll talk in a romantic example first.

You're not even that interested in them, but maybe they spark some interest in you and then you're kind of like, okay, I guess I'll bite.

Maybe you talk for a little bit, maybe you develop some feelings, maybe you don't, but then if that person were to ghost you per se,

suddenly you care so much more.

But when starting out, you were like, I don't even care.