Brianna Gomez

It might feel like this magnetic force and maybe it is.

But the truth is, if it is love, if it is meant to be platonic or romantic, it will be.

And I want you to take your imaginary scissors and...

Take a deep breath, release all the things that you need to mentally, emotionally, energetically, and cut that string.

And sometimes when you do this, you can almost feel a relief and a release.

And you know what?

That's not going to work if you just do the motions, then you go back to stalking their Instagram and waiting for them to text you.

It's not going to happen.

You have to be physically willing to claim your energy back.

And what's so hard is if you're always readily available for them, if you're ready to give up your energy that easily...

of course you're going to feel drained.

Of course you're going to feel less of your self-worth.

Of course you're going to feel less in touch with yourself and your sense of self-love because you've been giving it away for so long.

So we are going to work on

rebuilding it the number one thing you need to do is you have to stop having a monitoring presence over this person and maybe it's you are always checking their instagram maybe it is you are checking their following or seeing if they've liked other girls pictures or maybe it's

you are looking at their activity and you're like oh my gosh my best friend was active four minutes ago and she hasn't texted me back for four hours or i see her watching people's stories but she's not responding to me or maybe you're sitting there waiting for a text or a call from this person

number one thing that helped me honestly in this is i started putting my phone on do not disturb when i was in this position and it did really help because you know what the ickiest feeling was was hearing my phone go off and be like did he text me like and then also you have to be willing to not drop everything and run the second this person is available for you i don't care if it's a friend who maybe has ignored you for months and is suddenly saying like actually like can you come over

No.

And there's a difference between being there for someone if they went through something hard maybe and they just had to go off the grid for a little bit.

But if it's a pattern where they push you away and pull you back in, a lot of toxic relationships have that push and pull method, that hot and super cold method where they will...