Brianna Gomez

butter you up and warm you up and make you feel like you are special and worthy and then they will push you away and ice you out like it's nothing and let me tell you, you do not deserve that kind of love.

That is not love.

A kind of love, romantic, platonic, I don't care, any form of a relationship where you feel like you have to give a part of yourself away in order to get close to this person, that's not love.

That is not a healthy relationship and so if you are willing to

always maybe miss out on plans with your friends because you're like oh maybe they'll be available for me tonight maybe you are out with your friends and the second they call you're like i will drop all my plans or maybe you're gonna have a self-care night and then suddenly they're free and you're like okay like maybe i'll go and i know it's fun i know it's spontaneous but the fact is

What kind of message does that send across to a person?

Because that tells the other person like, oh, I don't even have to try.

I don't even have to put in effort.

I don't even have to plan a thing.

I can show up whenever I want and your energy will be served to them on a silver platter.

That is not right.

No one should have the power to control your plans, to control your life, to control yourself.

That is not the way it should be.

Listen to me when I say that unconditional love does not mean unconditional boundaries.

And lessons in life will be repeated until they are learned, and problems in life will be repeated until they are corrected.

If you are sending the signals to someone that it's okay to mistreat you, that it's okay to disrespect you, that it's okay to neglect you, and you are there time and time again, there is no lesson being learned, there is no correction being given, and it will be repeated.

But making the decision to put yourself first and to want something better and to want something that you deserve

is not selfish.

Wanting to get out of a situation where your worth is being diminished is not selfish.

It might be scary, but staying in a situation where you're being treated like you are nothing is scarier.