Brianna Gomez

we want them to want us ask yourself do i really want them or do i just want to be wanted and oftentimes there is a fear of being alone there is that fear of rejection we mentioned earlier and that is what makes you go chasing after people who do not want you you are so afraid

of not having someone around.

Especially maybe it's a toxic cycle that's been going on for a while.

I know it can feel so scary to let that go.

But you know what's even scarier?

Imagine where you'll be years from now if you never let that go.

Your biggest fear should not be being alone.

It should be, dang, where am I going to be if I continue clinging on to this person, if I continue waiting around for people who do not want me?

That should be your biggest fear because I'm promising you, whatever this feeling is of being alone, standing around waiting for someone who pushes and pulls away, who does not truly want you, who does not truly care about you, that is way more lonely.

than being actually alone.

Because if you learn how to be comfortable being alone, that is where self-love is cultivated.

That is where your worth is identified.

That is where you truly learn to fall in love with your life and yourself and just the person that you are becoming.

And so the next time that you're in a situation where it's like, okay, I could probably be alone or I could be waiting around for this other person readily available at their beck and call,

Think of choosing being alone because I'm telling you that is so much more worth your time.

You could wait around for a person for five years or you could focus on yourself and the person you want to become for five years.

And I know it will be sad at first.

You're like, how am I going to possibly enter my self love era?

I promise you.

you will and I've been the person like oh my gosh I'm so scared to walk away my life is going to end if I walk away from this person and suddenly you push yourself so far to the limit where you don't even recognize yourself anymore and you have no choice but to finally let go or be pushed to the edge