Brianna Gomez

But the truth is, if someone is a narcissist, if someone is a hater, if someone is spiteful of you or jealous of you, they will never be able to view themselves as wrong.

So it's almost like,

don't waste your time if they ask you can tell them if they want but like really it's like you don't have to spell it out for someone and if you're talking about me behind my back or wishing on my downfall you know exactly what you did wrong and i shouldn't have to tell you and in terms of communicating with a person peacefully in the future if you have to run into them like always be the bigger person and i'm not saying that's like necessarily for their sake but i'm saying it for your sake too

To harbor hate in your heart is something that is so heavy.

And I'm not expecting you to instantly forgive and forget and just get over it.

I'm not asking you to forget, but to find forgiveness not for their sake, but for your own.

If you are able to be like, okay...

I am letting go of what they did, not for them, but for me because I shouldn't have to hold on to it.

And this doesn't mean forget it and instantly be besties with them again, but it means let go of it in your heart because it takes up a lot of space.

Heavy hurt and negativity like that, it holds a lot of weight, weight that you should not have to carry, especially when you weren't the one who did the damage.

And that's something that I've been so convicted of because when someone does me wrong, I want them to know exactly what they did.

I want them to know why.

I don't want to talk to them anymore.

I feel the need to say it.

But in reality, it's like they should know.

on their own and if they don't why do i want to waste my breath anyway if they can't realize something that they did was so blatantly wrong but i do also agree with speaking your mind and if there is something that you want to confront or get off your chest absolutely do it i'm just saying you don't have to and to find peace in your heart after the fact of the initial confrontation the initial grief of it all

To be able to then say, okay, I did what I can, giving it up to God, I'm letting it go.

Because if you go about life after this, preying on someone else's downfall, wanting to see them fail, who really has the power?

They do.

And who's the hater now?