Brianna Gomez

It's just not true.

So maybe there are some times where a friend is texting you all the time and they're really good at catching up and they're really good at hanging out with you.

And maybe there's times where they aren't.

That doesn't automatically mean they're toxic.

so go ahead and just ask them and oftentimes it will be they're just going through a rough patch they're going through a season they aren't able to give as much so stop defining your friendships by how many times you see someone a week or talk to them I really don't think that's it because I have some friends where I can go literal months or even years without seeing them or even talking to them but when I do it's like no time has passed and I know that this is someone who I can genuinely trust you

Because on the other hand, there are people who you might see every day or talk to every week and go out with every weekend.

That does not mean that they are your best friend.

That does not mean that you can trust them.

That does not mean that they want what's best for you.

And so many people, they mistake proximity and frequency for depth, for intimacy, for chemistry.

And it's so interesting because looking back, there were people who I would see pretty frequently, maybe go out and do a lot of things with them.

It was so surface level.

I know they didn't actually care about me.

I know they would leave at the first opportunity if better plans came up.

And then there's also other friends who it's like, I don't have to see them all the time, but I know that if I called them and I told them I really, really needed them, they would be there.

and that is what matters.

So, also have grace with your friends.

I feel like some people build up really unrealistic expectations with friends, but the older I get, the more I realize, like, okay, just because I don't hear from someone 24-7 does not mean they don't love me or care about me, and just because I do does not mean that they do care about me.

And so, just learning how to discern the two.

I do have multiple episodes on fake friends, so if you guys want some more...