Brittany De La Mora

You got to correct your children.

You have to.

But not in like this controlling way.

It should come from a place of love.

Like, I love you so much and I need to correct you because this is not going to lead you down the right path.

It's not because it puts you in a place of shame and you start to internalize things.

I'm a bad kid.

I'm not a good person because...

what I did was wrong and now I'm locked into my room as punishment I don't agree in punishment but I agree with discipline and I think discipline is from the root word discipleship so we should disciple we should discipline in a way but everything that God does he does out of love so I always think of like when I do wrong that conviction that I get

Do I feel horrible?

No, I don't feel horrible, but I feel compelled to change because I feel God convict me from a place of love, right?

So when I talk to my children, it should be edifying, but then you also correct them, right?

So you correct, but you also edify.

So maybe, hey, what you did was not okay, but that doesn't mean that's who you are, right?

Because shame says it's who I am.

Conviction or discipline says it's what I've done, but I can change what I've done, right?

But if I believe that that's who I am, then I can't really change because my belief system is so strong that I'm a bad person.

I'm a failure.

I'm not good enough.

So how are you supposed to change?