Brittany De La Mora

Right.

So if you control your household, then you'll have peace.

But peace is an inside job, not an outside job.

And so when your parents are trying to control you, I think that deep down they mean well, but it's also coming from a deep place of fear.

I don't think that you should let your kid figure it out all out on their own, but I don't think you should try to control them.

I think that you influence your children through relationship, right?

Like, I mean, I have a six-year-old and three-year-old, so mine are still fairly young, but I know, I notice on days when my six-year-old is, she's not naturally rebellious, my three-year-old is, but my six-year-old is not naturally rebellious.

She's very, wants to, she wants to follow, you know, my instructions, right?

But I notice on days when she's a little rebellious, I look at where our relationship's been.

And maybe I've been a little busy.

I haven't been playing toys with her, going out on our daily walks that we normally do.

So I notice that when I bond with her again, then she wants to follow my instructions naturally, right?

Because relationship establishes influence.

Exactly.

Lead by example and by instruction and not being afraid to to correct them when they're wrong.

Right.

Even in the Bible, it says that if you don't correct your children, it's because you hate them.

Right.

Like, oh, really?

Yeah.