Brittany De La Mora

Which is not God's heart.

Like God's heart isn't to cast you down into hell, but their parents would beat them over the head with the Bible.

So they felt like they could never be good enough for this judgmental God that their parents painted him out to be.

And so they figured, well, just do whatever I want.

And then I think that there's this subconscious rebellion inside of you when you grow up in that kind of house.

Like, I want to just rebel against my parents.

I want to rebel against my family because you feel hurt by them.

So subconsciously, you want to rebel against them.

Yeah, especially I think when you don't have a good relationship with your parents, you have a good relationship with your parents.

You you want to honor them.

You want to respect them.

You want to follow their words because you love them and you trust them.

Right.

But when you when you feel like you're being belittled by your parents, then you want to rebel against them because you're hurt by them.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Uh huh.

and um didn't work for me yeah no it doesn't work so you're like well if you're gonna try to control me then i'm just gonna go and do whatever i want right yeah were your parents controlling in the religion part of stuff too no not at all i didn't grow up in a religious household but my mother was also very controlling you know she and i know control comes from a place of fear right like you're afraid that your children are going to turn out bad or you're afraid so you

Do everything you can to just try to control them so that everything goes well.

And if you can control them in your house, a lot of people think their peace comes from the external.