Cait Emma Burke

And being chill or like chalant, you know, is that what they call it online?

Like it's, is it?

No, not chalant.

I'm chalant, you know, like I care.

I'm the opposite to that.

I'm the opposite.

I'm not nonchalant.

I'm like,

No, I'm not and that's okay.

It's okay that we're not chill, you know.

I think I was just really upfront about that side of myself and the fact that I was really like wanting something serious and asked him really early on and then we were aligned and now it's been a year and a half and we are living together and yeah, it's going really well.

I'm going to sound like a broken record, but take a break.

I don't think it's very healthy to do this cyclical thing where you're constantly downloading and going through heartbreak every couple of months.

And I don't think we talk enough about the trauma that casual dating can inflict on your brain.

And I think a lot of people get into this mindset where they think, oh, I just have to keep pushing and keep trying and keep putting myself out there.

But if you're not showing up in a way where you feel good and you feel excited and you feel like ready to, I don't know, put a lot of energy into something, you're not probably going to find the right person or the right dynamic.

So I think take a break.

It could even be as long as like six weeks, you know, no apps, just really sit with yourself and what you want, do a bit of journaling and then go back and you'll be a bit more refreshed and a bit more like sure about what you're wanting out of dating.

You need a bit of a circuit breaker.

You need a circuit breaker.