Caitlin V

And if you are always rushing to get something done or feeling like you can't perform up to the expectations that you have and you're not allowed to actually like ever speak about that aloud or you have a great deal of shame, like all of that.

I like to think about sex is sort of one on ramp.

to self-inquiry or self-reflection or personal development.

And there are other on-ramps.

You can explore your relationship with money.

You can explore your relationship with your parents.

You can explore your relationship with like your physical body and exercise.

All of those are perfectly valid on-ramps.

They all kind of lead towards the same thing, right?

Which is developing, I think anyways, a relationship to yourself, of knowing yourself, of having some degree of practice, of discipline, of like you develop as a person.

they're all on ramps to the same place.

And I like to think that if you choose the on ramp of sex, that we're starting at a particularly deep point in the person.

We're going to like a very deep, vulnerable core piece of you as an individual.

And so if we work on that, it is naturally going to start to unfold as sort of like, if you unravel this one knot that's sort of like very deeply at the center of all the other knots, you're gonna loosen up everything.

So I'm a researcher, right?

So I came from the ivory tower.

I came from, you know, I had 24-hour access to a chlamydia lab.

I used to drive samples.

I know.

It's one of the weirdest things.