Caitlin V

Absolutely.

And it shouldn't be.

And the same is true with relating.

Right.

Yeah.

I think that for the most part, our parents probably didn't show us how to have those conversations.

If they had them, if they did a good job with that, they didn't do it in front of us.

And maybe they did demonstrate that with us, but maybe we haven't seen other elder couples in our lives demonstrate that.

So we just don't even know that it's possible.

So, for example, my partner and I, when we need to have a conversation, like we need to have a relationship level, we've had some kind of breakdown, we're circling a conflict, we don't see eye to eye on something important.

We bury it and we move on.

We usually buy a flight somewhere and we put on our...

We put on our backpacks and we get out of there.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And then we just wait.

And then the range of things that we can talk about gets slower and slower and smaller and smaller and smaller.

And pretty soon it's just like, what do you want for dinner?

And where are we getting ice cream?

Yeah, like all healthy couples, obviously.

I'm a professional.