Caitlin V

He said, well, I keep having these deep conversations with my partner at like 9 PM at night.

And then I don't remember all the things that we discussed the next day, but it was really important stuff.

Well, then take notes.

Okay.

Why would you, why would you treat your work as if it is so important that you're willing to write things down, but you wouldn't treat your primary romantic relationship.

That's going to have a way larger influence on the course of your life.

And maybe that you'll stay with longer than any job you'll ever have.

But you won't treat it with the same level of respect and dignity to just write some things down.

And if you don't want to write some things down, ask if it's cool to record it.

Have a conversation and have it recorded.

And then throughout the conversation, go back and say, hey, let's just summarize what we've discussed so far.

I want to make sure that I'm understanding.

Let me rephrase what I just heard to you so that I know that I got it.

really basic communication tools that work outside of romantic relationships that make a huge difference and make it a lot safer.

If we know, okay, we got to have a conversation about the sex life.

We're going to do it during a time where we have space before to like

Take care of ourselves.

I'm not going to be rushed.

I'm going to get a shower and a lunch.

Right.