Caitlin V

I learned how to partner dance in the last couple years.

I learned how to swing dance.

And you can pick up so much about a person from partner dancing with them.

The way that they move and they engage, like so much more than you can get from just having a conversation.

And certainly so much more than you can get from a photograph, right?

So when we're dating online,

we're choosing people with our eyes and we're not choosing them based off of like how they actually move into space and do they make us laugh and how do they smell we're choosing them based on like five to seven images that they curated and a handful of words and then online dating becomes a very very miserable game that people are playing and they feel like it's just a numbers game because it sort of is how many times you have to roll the dice on someone that you

that looks attractive to you before you find someone who smells attractive to you, who your body actually feels good around, who you have chemistry with.

And so people burn themselves out.

They go on 50 or 100 dates to find one person that they want to go on more than one date with.

It is.

It is exhausting.

And I'm saying this, like having, having had very limited experience with it, all of my partners, my significant relationships I met online or met, I met in person rather, not really spend a lot of time online dating because every time I've tried it in my past, I've gone, oh, this is this, the juice is not worth the squeeze on how much effort this takes.

And that's for me.

You're an attractive guy.

I imagine that you would do well.

Take it easy.

Don't push my ego like that.

Let me rephrase that.

Did you find that it was exhausting, like mentally, emotionally exhausting?